Thank you, I will add a little back ground info about mum. She is 83 and has always been a strong, independent lady. We lost my father in Dec 1999. Mom lived in the family home on her own until 2005 until she met a man , who both her and my father had known as a friend for many years , they had had many an adventure together with him and His wife. He had also lost his wife in the early 2000,s and Mom and N began courting, it seemed a natural liaison for them and they found love and support in each other's company. Mom moved in with him in 2007.
Fast forward to 2018. Mom needed to have an hip opporation and was starting to become a little forgetful and confused at times, but was deemed fit to have major surgery, and to be honest they managed to pull the wool over the eyes of the medical professionals , who thought all was good mentally.
She had the op in May and everything has gone down hill since. The op was successful but the affects of the general anaesthetic have accelerated and dramatically induced the onset of what I believe is dementia/ Alzheimer's . everything has changed, her demeanour , her reasoning, her ability to remember, she is having flashbacks to things that happened in hospital but she thinks they are happening now, and she is becoming more and more upset and distressed about all these things that are making her head" fuzzy" . She is unable to work out what is happening and I know it is frightening her, she becomes withdrawn and emotional. He relationship with her partner has changed and he putting his head in the sand and trying to carry on as normal. He has been diagnosed with Prostrate cancer and it appears that he is going to have to have chemotherapy , I have no idea how much my mom understands and I am concerned for both of them now.
