Oh Julie, I'm really sorry. It's strange, mum calls out her own name too and seems to have "conversations" with herself. Today was lovely but a rare thing; mostly I cannot penetrate " the wall" either. She also calls out "somebody help me" and that's hard to hear when you're leaving. My heart goes out to you. When mum asks for help I ask what she needs and she inevitably says "nothing". It really is like reassuring a child. I dont think anything can be done sadly. I'm told years ago, before they had more knowledge of this wretched illness, it was common practice to "sedate" folk and to be honest I think that was really to benefit staff. I gather that heavy-duty anti-psychotic drugs were used used and, in many cases, over-administered which was barbaric. I wonder if a low dose anti-anxiety drug would help. The trouble is, of course, they come with side effects. I agree, it is sad. I think all we can do is what we are already doing. So many sufferers are "abandoned" by families. My brother has a colleague whose father is in a NH with dementia and he never visits "because he doesnt know me". I am appalled. You and I could never do that. We continue to spend time with our mums because we love them. I think perhaps Love is all there is now, it's all we can give but that love is precious and I feel, even through the fog of this disease, our mums can still feel that love. And I'm sending love to you together with hugs. Thank God for TP and lovely people like you who share their experience because we understand and it really helps. Take care dear Julie xxxx
