Hi, I've been looking for somewhere I could get support. I've been a career for my mum for so long now I've forgotten when it started. Since the death of my father it has got so much worse and I feel that I need to talk to keep my own sanity. Mum has 24/7 care from her children. I am finding that almost all of my evenings, we have the sundowner issues, mum wants to go home and no matter how hard I try there is no getting round it. Mum has always been a determined, but depressive lady sadly a glass half empty kind of girl. Dementia has completely emptied and cracked her glass, amplified the depression, removed her stop button and increased her tendencies to be nasty and to lash out at those who are trying to help her. "Going home" can last anywhere from one to seven hours, I have tried everything I can think of, distraction techniques, showing old photos, possessions, talking, not talking, routines, changing routines, removing myself from the room as often she gets quite abusive, nothing seems to help. I know that many of you will have seen this before , and I'm hoping that someone will suggest something that might help