Hi,
I haven't posted here before and although I read the threads my apologies if these are questions that have been asked and answered before. My Mum is 69 and has had Alzheimers for about four years (diagnosed) and a good many years before that undiagnosed. She lives with my Dad who struggles to cope. She has taken to making lots of GP appointments. I notice elsewhere on the forum, people had the opposite problem of not being able to get their LO to go to the doctor or accept their condition. Mum on the other hand, makes appointments, can't remember them, gets taken by me or my brother (we get texts from the surgery) and can't remember why she needed the appointment - the GP asks her how she is and she says, tired but fine. My question is, have people/families/surgeries found a way to avoid unneeded appointments? If we didn't get the text reminder she would be none the wiser that she had even made the appointment. We have a power of attourney but we don't want to use it yet as she can still make decisions for herself.
My next question is whether anyone uses a full-time day carer and how that has worked out. Mum is wandering, doesn't have great road safety skills anymore, can be occasionally aggressive (not physically) to relatives, forgets where / why she is going/how to get there etc. We spend a lot of time worrying about her, looking for her and tracking down lost possessions - or not. But she is a really social person and we want to keep her out of residential care as long as possible so that she still gets out and about as much as she can. Is a daytime care centre a good option - do people wander off from them? She has not got a carer because she is privately funded and that has become an obstacle to my parents getting help. But I think my Dad is at the point of recognising something has to change and we want to make the right decision first time so that it's a smooth transition.
Apologies for the long post, any advice very gratefully received.
I haven't posted here before and although I read the threads my apologies if these are questions that have been asked and answered before. My Mum is 69 and has had Alzheimers for about four years (diagnosed) and a good many years before that undiagnosed. She lives with my Dad who struggles to cope. She has taken to making lots of GP appointments. I notice elsewhere on the forum, people had the opposite problem of not being able to get their LO to go to the doctor or accept their condition. Mum on the other hand, makes appointments, can't remember them, gets taken by me or my brother (we get texts from the surgery) and can't remember why she needed the appointment - the GP asks her how she is and she says, tired but fine. My question is, have people/families/surgeries found a way to avoid unneeded appointments? If we didn't get the text reminder she would be none the wiser that she had even made the appointment. We have a power of attourney but we don't want to use it yet as she can still make decisions for herself.
My next question is whether anyone uses a full-time day carer and how that has worked out. Mum is wandering, doesn't have great road safety skills anymore, can be occasionally aggressive (not physically) to relatives, forgets where / why she is going/how to get there etc. We spend a lot of time worrying about her, looking for her and tracking down lost possessions - or not. But she is a really social person and we want to keep her out of residential care as long as possible so that she still gets out and about as much as she can. Is a daytime care centre a good option - do people wander off from them? She has not got a carer because she is privately funded and that has become an obstacle to my parents getting help. But I think my Dad is at the point of recognising something has to change and we want to make the right decision first time so that it's a smooth transition.
Apologies for the long post, any advice very gratefully received.