A dreadful couple of days

[Marnie63]

Aaaagrh! I'm onto 111 again, asking if a doctor could come and examine her. I can't listen to this raspy breathing, it's not right.

I'm now half considering having her hospitalised, but I'm 90% sure she won't survive the environment, or the 'treatment'.

 

[Marnie63]

(Why is this happening to us?!)

 

[Cat27]

Oh Marnie I’m so sorry.

 

[Prudence9]

Ohh AliceA, wouldn't a crystal ball be wonderful!
Marnie, these ((((hugs)))) are for you and Mum xxxx

 

[LynneMcV]

I am so sorry you have this huge worry. I hope 111 send a doctor soon.

 

[love.dad.but..]

Marnie I am so sorry and I totally understand why you do not want your mum to go into hospital isn't it also better to try and make her comfortable by getting the right treatment as you sound extremely concerned. If the dr or paramedics are called they may take that decision for you if they feel her best interests are that she should be assessed and treated in hospital if whatever she needs cannot be given at home.

 

[Marnie63]

Double AARRGGHH! Now the person on 111 has told me that if I keep refusing hospital admission and a doctor doesn't see her … and something happens .. then the Coroner will be involved!

So do I send her back to the place that looked after so well that she got a huge pressure sore?!!

Hopefully the doc will come and maybe prescribe something to ease the breathing (and she can stay at home).

 

[Izzy]

@Marnie63 I’m so sorry things are bad. I just echo what love.dad.but has said.

Thinking of you and wishing you strength v

 

[Marnie63]

If she can't be helped here, but can be helped in hospital, maybe I should brave a 5th admission? Can't believe I'm even considering it.

 

[Cat27]

Marnie maybe the hospital admission will then put extra things in at home to enable you to keep your Mum.
If you talk things through with the consultant about your wishes, I’m sure they will get things sorted.

 

[Izzy]

If she is admitted to hospital would they allow you to stay with her? I stayed overnight in hospital with my husband. They gave him a side room. I first got a recliner chair then a folding bed. It made me much happier to see what was going on.

 

[Prudence9]

Marnie I hate to suggest you cave in but perhaps if Mum was taken to A&E she could be given relief quickly, but you could stress you are happy to have her back home as soon as possible, without waiting for an SW assessment (as long as you are, of course).
It might be that Mum only needs a night or two in hospital to stabilise her if they know they are able to discharge her quickly?...The problem I suppose is getting her through resus and the never-ending blood tests etc. Such a tough decision, wishing you all the strength it's possible to summon. Xxx

 

[nae sporran]

Sorry to read of your ongoing crisis Marnie. After a bad experience you are bound to be reluctant to take your mum back to hospital. Not sure what to advise or add to advice already given, so just hope your mum gets something to help her and you can get some rest. Very best of luck and support to you both.

 

[Marnie63]

OK, so waiting for 111 doctor to call back. I am going to press for a doctor to come and see her (any doctor, I don't care!) and ask if there are any meds they can give to loosen the mucus, or if they can somehow remove it manually (I'm sure I saw suction machines in hospital for that purpose?). I'm still convinced it's just a blob of mucus stuck in her throat that she can't cough up because she's too weak to do a big cough. But, it's really affecting her breathing. Let's hope I get a helpful doctor.

Thanks everyone, as ever.

(Will also ask what they can do at hospital that can't be done here.)

 

[Lindy50]

Oh Marnie
What a difficult situation!! I only hope that they send a doctor to see your mum quickly x If that doc says she can be treated in hospital, maybe she should go? They don’t usually keep anyone longer than is necessary. Having said that, I totally understand why you are resisting her going.
With love and wishing you strength.
Lindy xx

 

[Marnie63]

111 doctor on the way. Talk about confusing conversation - I thought he was responding to my recent call to 111, but it was the guy who I spoke to last night, calling me to see how mum was doing! Anyway, he's coming. Mum sounds like a tractor now.

 

[Prudence9]

111 doctor on the way. Talk about confusing conversation - I thought he was responding to my recent call to 111, but it was the guy who I spoke to last night, calling me to see how mum was doing! Anyway, he's coming. Mum sounds like a tractor now.

Oh good luck sweetheart xxx

 

[Izzy]

I'm so glad that someone is coming out. Thinking of you both.

 

[love.dad.but..]

Am glad someone is coming out..this isn't possible for everyone to do I understand but when dad was admitted to hospital on two different emergencies one of 7 days one of 10 days I stayed with him the whole time to ensure he was looked after properly

 

[Distressed55]

Hi @Marnie63 - apologies if this is completely idiotic....

But would steaming help at all? I know that it would be difficult, but it may loosen the phlegm and make it a bit easier for your poor mum to cough it up? Can you sit her in the bathroom with the shower on full blast as hot as you can get it? Not with either of you under the shower, of course.

Just a thought, maybe a halfwitted one.