hi help and advice needed
My mum is currently in a normal residential home That I think are struggling to cope with my mum who has mixed advanced Alzheimer’s and lacks mental capacity my siblings ( unfortunately not me) are her deputies the home are increasing struggling to get my mum up and she is regularly missing meals. She is loosing weight the home have on a number of occasions said that can’t understand my mum and she is isolated none of the other residents talk to her
I want to look into to move her into a dementia specialist home that has the training to help her especially now she is loosing weight because they are struggling to get her up I know she has missed at least 1meals a day 4 days this month alone ( they may be more they was certainly some in June and July because they hadn’t been able to get her up and not made sure that she has eaten the meals they bring her . I have brought this up with my siblings but they disagree they won’t even consider looking at alternative care homes . I have had to beg them to buy her summer clothes when it was warm ( she was wearing thick winter trousers and jumper in the middle of the heatwave because she didn’t have any summer weight clothes it’s got to the point where they totally ignore anything I say especially if it includes using mums money ( it’s like they think it’s their already)
I know there is no cure and things are only will only get worse she has deteriorated a lot in the past 3 months I only want her looked after properly with carers who properly trained to deal with her so she is has comfortable has possible it cannot be doing her any good missing meals
They say we have to wait until they say they cannot cope with her but I can see they are not coping now and there is not a thing I can do nothing about it all I get is that dementia specialist homes won’t offer anything else
I will never forgive them because in my eyes they are not looking after mums best interest she is waisting away in front of me all-they are bothered about is inheritance
My mum is currently in a normal residential home That I think are struggling to cope with my mum who has mixed advanced Alzheimer’s and lacks mental capacity my siblings ( unfortunately not me) are her deputies the home are increasing struggling to get my mum up and she is regularly missing meals. She is loosing weight the home have on a number of occasions said that can’t understand my mum and she is isolated none of the other residents talk to her
I want to look into to move her into a dementia specialist home that has the training to help her especially now she is loosing weight because they are struggling to get her up I know she has missed at least 1meals a day 4 days this month alone ( they may be more they was certainly some in June and July because they hadn’t been able to get her up and not made sure that she has eaten the meals they bring her . I have brought this up with my siblings but they disagree they won’t even consider looking at alternative care homes . I have had to beg them to buy her summer clothes when it was warm ( she was wearing thick winter trousers and jumper in the middle of the heatwave because she didn’t have any summer weight clothes it’s got to the point where they totally ignore anything I say especially if it includes using mums money ( it’s like they think it’s their already)
I know there is no cure and things are only will only get worse she has deteriorated a lot in the past 3 months I only want her looked after properly with carers who properly trained to deal with her so she is has comfortable has possible it cannot be doing her any good missing meals
They say we have to wait until they say they cannot cope with her but I can see they are not coping now and there is not a thing I can do nothing about it all I get is that dementia specialist homes won’t offer anything else
I will never forgive them because in my eyes they are not looking after mums best interest she is waisting away in front of me all-they are bothered about is inheritance