Dad has late stage Vascular Dementia and is almost 80 years of age - he has declined considerably in the past 6 months and a few weeks back suffered a major dip whereby his actions could not be explained and since then we are having sometimes daily incidences where something has clearly happened, but he is not able to explain in words or sentences that make any sense what happened, but it is something concerning enough that he has either phoned me or pressed the alarm button on the system we installed as an extra precaution.
I therefore decided that rather than waiting for something more serious to happen, I would contact Adult Services to ask if Dad could be assessed with a view to possible respite care/short term stay in a care home as a starting point to his long term care. I thought respite or short term care to see how he adapted before any decision was made was a good starting point and presumed this was something I had to go through Adult Services for, because of his condition. We would be self funding, so it wasn't as if I was expecting his care to be paid for by the local authority.
I thought that was the right thing to do for his own safety and my piece of mind that he would be monitored 24/7, even if it was for just a couple of weeks, but apparently until such time as Dad agrees (which I can't see that ever happening as he won't accept any outside 'interference' as he calls it) we either have to continue as are, with Dad living at home on his own, with all the additional support measures I can put in place, or wait for a 'crisis' to occur whereby the need for his consent may no longer be applicable.
I don't think my Dad does not know what is best for him anymore - if he did then I wouldn't have to do half the things I do for him - he just follows the same daily routine whether it is a good day or a bad one but that doesn't detract from the fact I am not taking away any respect for him as a human being, all I am trying to do is what is best for his safety with the condition that he has so with the increasing day to day concerns that seem to be occurring, why is my request to keep him safer, deemed to be the wrong request to make as his carer??
I therefore decided that rather than waiting for something more serious to happen, I would contact Adult Services to ask if Dad could be assessed with a view to possible respite care/short term stay in a care home as a starting point to his long term care. I thought respite or short term care to see how he adapted before any decision was made was a good starting point and presumed this was something I had to go through Adult Services for, because of his condition. We would be self funding, so it wasn't as if I was expecting his care to be paid for by the local authority.
I thought that was the right thing to do for his own safety and my piece of mind that he would be monitored 24/7, even if it was for just a couple of weeks, but apparently until such time as Dad agrees (which I can't see that ever happening as he won't accept any outside 'interference' as he calls it) we either have to continue as are, with Dad living at home on his own, with all the additional support measures I can put in place, or wait for a 'crisis' to occur whereby the need for his consent may no longer be applicable.
I don't think my Dad does not know what is best for him anymore - if he did then I wouldn't have to do half the things I do for him - he just follows the same daily routine whether it is a good day or a bad one but that doesn't detract from the fact I am not taking away any respect for him as a human being, all I am trying to do is what is best for his safety with the condition that he has so with the increasing day to day concerns that seem to be occurring, why is my request to keep him safer, deemed to be the wrong request to make as his carer??