My mum is coming into the latter stages of the disease and my dad is her main carer. She is very slow, her mobility is bad and she is becoming more incontinent. She needs a lot of support from him and he cares for her on his own. He has been recently diagnosed with kidney cancer and it is treatable but he needs to have treatment. He has spoken to social services and they are ready to act when is needed. I think he will want to keep her at home but my Auntie looked after her today whilst he was in hospital and she said it was so difficult and she is worried about the caring side whilst he is ill himself. So we need to have “the talk” about putting her in care so he can focus on his recovery. However, this will not be easy. I feel helpless because I have 2 small children and live an hours drive away. I’m worried that this next step will be the most upsetting of all but it needs to be done! Or will it be a relief? 
