My first post when I joined TP 18 months ago was about guilt, and here we go again.
My Mum's been in an EMI home since beginning of June and I couldn't want for more for her. She's well looked after, it's a nice place, basic but with lovely carers and nurses and she's always beautifully turned out and kept occupied, as much as they can.
She has good days and bad days. When I saw her last Friday, she was more coherent than usual, but kept saying that she wanted to leave and come and live with me (wouldn't be any trouble etc etc.).
Overcome with guilt (again), I had to keep reminding myself that :
She gets paranoid and aggressive and hits people (she used to hit me)
She won't take her medication
She's doubly incontinent
She needs looking after by people properly qualified to do it
etc. etc.
and I don't actually have room for her at home and have to work part-time to top up my pension.
Just putting this down in print helps me, maybe it will help other people who go through this.
It doesn't get any easier, does it?
My Mum's been in an EMI home since beginning of June and I couldn't want for more for her. She's well looked after, it's a nice place, basic but with lovely carers and nurses and she's always beautifully turned out and kept occupied, as much as they can.
She has good days and bad days. When I saw her last Friday, she was more coherent than usual, but kept saying that she wanted to leave and come and live with me (wouldn't be any trouble etc etc.).
Overcome with guilt (again), I had to keep reminding myself that :
She gets paranoid and aggressive and hits people (she used to hit me)
She won't take her medication
She's doubly incontinent
She needs looking after by people properly qualified to do it
etc. etc.
and I don't actually have room for her at home and have to work part-time to top up my pension.
Just putting this down in print helps me, maybe it will help other people who go through this.
It doesn't get any easier, does it?