Dear All my mum who is about to be 85 just got diagnosed properly after a very rough stay as an informal patient with bipolar affective disorder plus anxiety and depression in a psychiatric ward. She has had 3 admissions in 18 months.
My sister and I care for her and she has been living at home solo but with carers and a good social.life in the community e.g. day clubs.
I just found out by text from the psychiatrist consultant her detailed brain scan showed dementia signs.
It's the sadness really I am very sad and have to tell My sister who is in denial. We are close geographically and mostly emotionally. But we deal very differently with difficult stuff. I'm more touchy feely she is more project management style.
My mum went through the Holocaust age 5. Is profoundly emotionally damaged has PTSD is quite self centred and narcissistic oh and Bipolar. I love her but she isn't empathetic and I struggle to be with her though I try. I had to transfer her to a care home temporarily as she was declared mentally incompetent. We applied for guardianship. Going through v slowly.
So practically part sorted. But I feel devastated. Obviously for my mum she has suffered enough. And also for myself and my sister. We have looked after my mum for 6 years since my lovely dad died now this.
It's just so hard-core. I feel emotionally exhausted after a summer taken up with managing a bad stay in hospital for my mum it was total chaos and she was v v uoset and anxious. Am now due to return to work post holiday and need a holiday.
I'm a full time single mum work nearly full time and have a daughter going through early puberty.
I love my life family work etc but..
Thank you for listening.
J
My sister and I care for her and she has been living at home solo but with carers and a good social.life in the community e.g. day clubs.
I just found out by text from the psychiatrist consultant her detailed brain scan showed dementia signs.
It's the sadness really I am very sad and have to tell My sister who is in denial. We are close geographically and mostly emotionally. But we deal very differently with difficult stuff. I'm more touchy feely she is more project management style.
My mum went through the Holocaust age 5. Is profoundly emotionally damaged has PTSD is quite self centred and narcissistic oh and Bipolar. I love her but she isn't empathetic and I struggle to be with her though I try. I had to transfer her to a care home temporarily as she was declared mentally incompetent. We applied for guardianship. Going through v slowly.
So practically part sorted. But I feel devastated. Obviously for my mum she has suffered enough. And also for myself and my sister. We have looked after my mum for 6 years since my lovely dad died now this.
It's just so hard-core. I feel emotionally exhausted after a summer taken up with managing a bad stay in hospital for my mum it was total chaos and she was v v uoset and anxious. Am now due to return to work post holiday and need a holiday.
I'm a full time single mum work nearly full time and have a daughter going through early puberty.
I love my life family work etc but..
Thank you for listening.
J
