Can I ... Should I?
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Would say good morning but it’s almost the afternoon, so good afternoon!
Would it help pooch if you put one of your mums tops in his sleeping place, the smell of her on it might help?
BTW what a lovely son you have. Make sure he leaves plenty of hugs behind for you.
Would it help pooch if you put one of your mums tops in his sleeping place, the smell of her on it might help?
BTW what a lovely son you have. Make sure he leaves plenty of hugs behind for you.
Morning ... sorry ... afternoon @Amy in the US
Youngest turning up has been amazing. He’s such a good kid. Hugged the life out of me
He is taking this really hard.
I am getting a bit more sleep, but still waking at “loo times”. I expect that will continue for a while
Appreciate the hugs.
Youngest turning up has been amazing. He’s such a good kid. Hugged the life out of me
He is taking this really hard. I am getting a bit more sleep, but still waking at “loo times”. I expect that will continue for a while
Appreciate the hugs.
I'm sure it will take time, time to get used to all the changes. You've had so many changes, so quickly, to get used to, and now this very huge change indeed.
I well remember the rootless, disoriented feeling after my father died. It was so surreal.
I like the idea of a memento you can keep with you.
I also think it's good to be thinking of things to do and places to go. We would support "Travels with Sam" 100 percent!
Whatever you do, please try to be kind to yourself.
Sending more hugs for you!
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I well remember the rootless, disoriented feeling after my father died. It was so surreal.
I like the idea of a memento you can keep with you.
I also think it's good to be thinking of things to do and places to go. We would support "Travels with Sam" 100 percent!
Whatever you do, please try to be kind to yourself.
Sending more hugs for you!
((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))
Hello @Sam Luvit
Been thinking of you these last couple of days.
It's not surprising that you are 'drifting' and feeling a bit rudderless at the moment. For the last 3 years your Mum has been your purpose, your life and the majority of your world. Very few are willing to give all that, and those that benefit from that level of love and care are very fortunate. You could have done no more.
Let yourself drift, do not rush, do what feels right for you. Then when the drifting ceases, let the wind fill your sails, adjust them and plot your course.
Following on from the memento idea, I have a bag with a load of wedding and engagement rings (my Grandfather's ; my Nan's, my Dad's and Mum's engagement ring, as she still wears her wedding band). I have already decided that one day I will have them all melted together and have something made that I can wear 24/7.
A final thought ........ perhaps in time, Poppet could be morphed into a mobile hug unit? Your youngest could be the Head of Training and Development, and Pooch could be a sleeping partner?
Hugs and love
X
Been thinking of you these last couple of days.
It's not surprising that you are 'drifting' and feeling a bit rudderless at the moment. For the last 3 years your Mum has been your purpose, your life and the majority of your world. Very few are willing to give all that, and those that benefit from that level of love and care are very fortunate. You could have done no more.
Let yourself drift, do not rush, do what feels right for you. Then when the drifting ceases, let the wind fill your sails, adjust them and plot your course.
Following on from the memento idea, I have a bag with a load of wedding and engagement rings (my Grandfather's ; my Nan's, my Dad's and Mum's engagement ring, as she still wears her wedding band). I have already decided that one day I will have them all melted together and have something made that I can wear 24/7.
A final thought ........ perhaps in time, Poppet could be morphed into a mobile hug unit? Your youngest could be the Head of Training and Development, and Pooch could be a sleeping partner?
Hugs and love
X
I think it will be a while before you settle into a purpose Sam. I know that it's a bit of a cliche but grief is certainly a roller coaster and some days will be easier than others. It has a time-line all of its own.
I think you have a grandchild due later this year?Someone else to love and care for.We can never replace the people we have lost but my 3 grandchildren have definitely helped me cope with losing my sister and both parents in 2 and a bit years.I hope it's the same for you.
I totally agree, three months after losing dad my first grandson arrived, it went from one of the worst time in my life, to one of the best times. Cried with sadness, then cried with love
Sam, it is natural for you to feel 'lost' and 'rootless' at the moment. You have had little time to think of yourself recently, every waking moment has been taken up with thinking about your mum and that stopped suddenly. I know you have a lot to organise, but it still leaves lots of time that you don't quite know how to fill.
It was very different for me when Mum went - she had been in a CH for a few months, so I had already cleared her flat and given up the tenancy, and she never saw our new flat, so there are no memories here, no empty place at the table etc. That is odd in itself but, I think, easier.
I look forward to the Poole installment of 'Travels with Poppet'
((((((((hugs))))))))
It was very different for me when Mum went - she had been in a CH for a few months, so I had already cleared her flat and given up the tenancy, and she never saw our new flat, so there are no memories here, no empty place at the table etc. That is odd in itself but, I think, easier.
I look forward to the Poole installment of 'Travels with Poppet'
((((((((hugs))))))))
Evening @Slugsta
I think quality sleep will be a while coming, but I am getting a bit more if it, so that’s good. Tonight is my first time alone, just me & Pooch. He’s keeping me close
Youngest was so sweet. Kept giving me hugs. Kept asking if I was ok
The weekend has been limbo land. Tomorrow the paperwork starts with avengegence uggg. I’ve done it all before, but I’m dreading it
I think quality sleep will be a while coming, but I am getting a bit more if it, so that’s good. Tonight is my first time alone, just me & Pooch. He’s keeping me close
Youngest was so sweet. Kept giving me hugs. Kept asking if I was ok
The weekend has been limbo land. Tomorrow the paperwork starts with avengegence uggg. I’ve done it all before, but I’m dreading it
Don't know if you are aware of this Sam - hopefully will cut down on the paperwork -Evening @Slugsta
I think quality sleep will be a while coming, but I am getting a bit more if it, so that’s good. Tonight is my first time alone, just me & Pooch. He’s keeping me close
Youngest was so sweet. Kept giving me hugs. Kept asking if I was ok
The weekend has been limbo land. Tomorrow the paperwork starts with avengegence uggg. I’ve done it all before, but I’m dreading it
https://www.gov.uk/after-a-death/organisations-you-need-to-contact-and-tell-us-once
It was good of him. It took them 2 1/2 hours to get home ... it’s not like he’s round the corner like eldest. That boy sure knows how to hug ... taught him well lol
I bonded with Mum in the last 3 weeks, can’t believe she cried, no sobbed on me. I’ve never seen her cry before. She let it out to me. She has to have trusted me to do that
Brother opened up. He talked, he listened, he was my hero. Our close relationship was nothing to how we bonded over this. I think he is truely amazing.
Yes @love.dad.but.. the black hole that has opened is massive, although I’m not sure if it’s drawing me in or spitting me out lol.
Youngest has always been the person his friends go to with their troubles.. he’s Godfather to lots of kids. Takes it seriously & makes sure he visits them all regularly. His fiancée makes him let out his own pain, will not let him bottle it up. She’s just right for him.
Brother opened up. He talked, he listened, he was my hero. Our close relationship was nothing to how we bonded over this. I think he is truely amazing.
Yes @love.dad.but.. the black hole that has opened is massive, although I’m not sure if it’s drawing me in or spitting me out lol.
Youngest has always been the person his friends go to with their troubles.. he’s Godfather to lots of kids. Takes it seriously & makes sure he visits them all regularly. His fiancée makes him let out his own pain, will not let him bottle it up. She’s just right for him.
