I'm so sorry to hear this but glad that you did get to have a relationship with your dad in the end.He lost his long battle at 6.12pm tonight, I was in the car on the way to see him.... Today, they said he had days to live... Then they said his breathing was shallow, but he was ok.... Kept ringing the care home , nurse was fantastic ..... She then said he had tempature, so I said " ok will be there " she rang ten mins later and said he had gone , my best friend said we should go and see his body and say goodbye, but I couldnt, I just couldn't .... Should I have done, it's to late now !!!! ... It's scary cos I am ok one min, then I have this overwhelming sadness and I cry ..... We had a very turbulent relationship, in fact we hated each other most of my life .... I did not speak to him for 12 years after my mum died, then was told he was not well and gave up work to look after him for three years.... What I am trying to say is that , I finally got a relationship with my dad and now he died alone ...... God bless everyone on this bloody horrible journey xxxxxx
My fit and healthy dad had a short illness and died in a hospice last year, I wasn't here when he died as I had to care for my mum, I couldn't see him when he had died at the hospice because I had to care for my mum.
In the end, actually two days before the funeral I saw my dad in the funeral directors.
I am so glad I did, I'd already said all I had to say while he was alive and I was very lucky to have a special bond with my pops, but seeing him at the end of his life gave me hope that I will oneaysee him again.
Sending you hugs xxx