Lo & behold, the doctor comes. Heaven help me, he asks Mum, does she want meds. “No, I’m fine” says Mum
I get him out the room, explain she is not going to ask, he needs to rephrase. Tell her you want her to have them. He ummed & arr’d. I am begging him. I’m tired. I can’t keep doing this. It’s me. Just me. My brother helps the night, but it’s me from 06.00 to 02.00. Please, tell her she needs it & you want her to have it
Back in he goes, tells her he wouId like her to have the meds to help her settle
“Ok” says Mum
Sam 1 - Doctor 0
OMG Sam, well done you!! The amount of times I have to remind drs, nurses, hospital staff, social workers, etc that MY FATHER HAS DEMENTIA AND LACKS CAPACITY is ridiculous, yet they still insist on ASKING his opinion!! He SHOULD NOT be asked, he needs to be TOLD, because if he's given the choice, his default answer is "no". Likewise your mum. "No I'm fine", her hostess mode doesn't want to cause a problem, her dementia doesn't fully understand (if understand at all) what she's being asked. Yet medical people STILL go through the "I asked and we can't force her" GRRRRR
Glad you won that battle. Cheering in your corner here.
EDITED TO ADD: YAY for the funding and sitters!! (((SAM)))