I won't go into all the details of my father's erratic comments and behaviour suffice to say that, after a prompt from me, his GP saw him and referred him to some kind of memory specialist. My parents are not forthcoming with information so I am sorry to appear vague.
The outcome of this assessment was that both of my parents were angry; upset; felt that it was a complete waste of time. All that I can elicit from my Mother is that Father was asked the names of various roads in their locality. Since he has lived there all his life (75 years) this was not difficult. According to my Mother the Specialist then spent a considerable amount of time cutting up paper into various shapes and throwing it around the room!
I have absolutely no idea what this was all about. I suspect that since both of my parents were so indignant about all of this that it must have been an uncomfortable experience.
My Father was referred for a brain scan, but has refused to go - a decision my Mother agrees with.
I live 130 miles away from my parents and my sister lives abroad. The GP is as helpful as she can be, but has been specifically asked by my parents not to tell us anything as they do not wish us to worry. I don't think I could be any more worried.
My Father is articulate and covers his memory loss incredibly well. They are not the sort of people who would want to be a nuisance to anyone, but I think that my Mother needs help - she is very defensive and edgy.
I realise that I cannot force my Father to go for a brain scan, and I feel like I am treading on eggshells when I speak to my Mother as she can be so defensive, but the thought of not doing anything is also awful.
If anyone out there has any words of wisdom or advice I would be very grateful.
The outcome of this assessment was that both of my parents were angry; upset; felt that it was a complete waste of time. All that I can elicit from my Mother is that Father was asked the names of various roads in their locality. Since he has lived there all his life (75 years) this was not difficult. According to my Mother the Specialist then spent a considerable amount of time cutting up paper into various shapes and throwing it around the room!
I have absolutely no idea what this was all about. I suspect that since both of my parents were so indignant about all of this that it must have been an uncomfortable experience.
My Father was referred for a brain scan, but has refused to go - a decision my Mother agrees with.
I live 130 miles away from my parents and my sister lives abroad. The GP is as helpful as she can be, but has been specifically asked by my parents not to tell us anything as they do not wish us to worry. I don't think I could be any more worried.
My Father is articulate and covers his memory loss incredibly well. They are not the sort of people who would want to be a nuisance to anyone, but I think that my Mother needs help - she is very defensive and edgy.
I realise that I cannot force my Father to go for a brain scan, and I feel like I am treading on eggshells when I speak to my Mother as she can be so defensive, but the thought of not doing anything is also awful.
If anyone out there has any words of wisdom or advice I would be very grateful.