well what a year it’s been...
Almost to the day, mom was admitted to hospital from living in her own flat, 6 weeks later discharged to a care home I had to fight for since I was her only family and heavily pregnant with my first baby. With no one else to help us I had to push for a care Home and in the 10 months she’s been there there have been problems.
In January she did nothing but sleep and refuse water and food. She lost a tremendous amount of weight over a couple of weeks and even had a chat with her gp about end of life care. But she bounced back as a lot of you have described your loved ones did.
Still frail but mobile she hit out at other residents on various occasions. Nothing too serious but enough to do safe guarding reports.
Last week she hit another resident with a mug and that was the last straw for the Home
I got a vague phonecall today saying they’re having a meeting with the LA (she is not self funding but I do pay a top up) and the mental health nurse to find another home for her cos they can no longer deal with the incidents.
I’ve only been informed for maybe 5 incidents and two were def provoked, they even said so. I knew that homes can turf out aggressive residents but I also knew that this type of behaviour is known to professionals caring people with Alzheimer’s.
I guess secretly I kinda thought it’d have to get way worse than this for them to come to the decision. I do of course care that other people’s loved ones have been hurt by my mum, I’m not ignoring that at all.
The home have asked (with no real reason other than she doesn’t fit in, no further explanation) in the past to move mum to another location of theirs away from me and I’ve said no after she had a huge downturn in January. In the back of my head it kinda feels like they’re pushing her out cos they wanted to anyway.
But I’m not gonna argue with them, I know they also have to look after the other residents.
They will call me tomorrow with more info after their meeting and then I’ll find out how soon she has to be moved etc
New CH will have to be able to deal with aggression and I can’t imagine there’s a lot of them so choices will be minimal if at all and possibly far away. I’m not feeling positive at all and are already barely coping with the anxiety of our situation let alone the move.
Have any of you here had to move a loved one at short notice to a new care Home due to aggression? How did the Home come to their decision? How much notice did they give you? If you were not self funding, were you given any choices?
Thank you ❤️
Almost to the day, mom was admitted to hospital from living in her own flat, 6 weeks later discharged to a care home I had to fight for since I was her only family and heavily pregnant with my first baby. With no one else to help us I had to push for a care Home and in the 10 months she’s been there there have been problems.
In January she did nothing but sleep and refuse water and food. She lost a tremendous amount of weight over a couple of weeks and even had a chat with her gp about end of life care. But she bounced back as a lot of you have described your loved ones did.
Still frail but mobile she hit out at other residents on various occasions. Nothing too serious but enough to do safe guarding reports.
Last week she hit another resident with a mug and that was the last straw for the Home
I got a vague phonecall today saying they’re having a meeting with the LA (she is not self funding but I do pay a top up) and the mental health nurse to find another home for her cos they can no longer deal with the incidents.
I’ve only been informed for maybe 5 incidents and two were def provoked, they even said so. I knew that homes can turf out aggressive residents but I also knew that this type of behaviour is known to professionals caring people with Alzheimer’s.
I guess secretly I kinda thought it’d have to get way worse than this for them to come to the decision. I do of course care that other people’s loved ones have been hurt by my mum, I’m not ignoring that at all.
The home have asked (with no real reason other than she doesn’t fit in, no further explanation) in the past to move mum to another location of theirs away from me and I’ve said no after she had a huge downturn in January. In the back of my head it kinda feels like they’re pushing her out cos they wanted to anyway.
But I’m not gonna argue with them, I know they also have to look after the other residents.
They will call me tomorrow with more info after their meeting and then I’ll find out how soon she has to be moved etc
New CH will have to be able to deal with aggression and I can’t imagine there’s a lot of them so choices will be minimal if at all and possibly far away. I’m not feeling positive at all and are already barely coping with the anxiety of our situation let alone the move.
Have any of you here had to move a loved one at short notice to a new care Home due to aggression? How did the Home come to their decision? How much notice did they give you? If you were not self funding, were you given any choices?
Thank you ❤️