Can I ... Should I?

[Mudgee Joy]

I just want to add a word about the possible carers group.
I was Caught out on Friday And had to go to a meeting and had no one to mind OH. So I rang the next larger place - a city - got into a “carers” group there and was able to take my man and leave him there for 3 hours - solved my problem but the best part was the welcome ! My husband was spotted immediately by staff member who took him in hand and off they went .. “hello - let me get you a cup of tea and then we will settle you in”
I had confidence then - and the place looked busy and interesting - prob my first really good carer experience !!

 

[Slugsta]

Morning all,

@Mudgee Joy how lovely that your man was given such a warm welcome by the carers' group! Of course that is how it should be but it seems it rarely actually happens

Sam, I hope your day goes well (((hugs)))

I can imagine how dodgy it might sound to a stranger if you were heard telling your PWD to transfer money. As has been said, reporting this is the correct thing to do - but can cause a lot of hassle for the carer.

Better go, Skycat wants cuddles and will stand on my keyboard if she doesn't get it!

 

[Mudgee Joy]

Hi @Slugsta do you play piano !? How lovely if you do !

 

[Slugsta]

Hi @Slugsta do you play piano !? How lovely if you do !

No, despite trying several instruments as a child, I don't play anything now - although I do enjoy singing. When I referred to 'keyboard' I was talking about my comp

 

[Margi29]

Hi Sam

How's the MOT gone with poppet ???

 

[Margi29]

No, despite trying several instruments as a child, I don't play anything now - although I do enjoy singing. When I referred to 'keyboard' I was talking about my comp

I had a recorder as a child, mum said it's was like listening to a cat screaming its last breath
Hence I'm not very musical instruments minded lol
Nearest I get to a key board is on here.
Probably safer for mankind, my singing is on par with above

 

[Slugsta]

I played the recorder at junior school (played the bass recorder as I was one of the few big enough to manage it), also had a go at euphonium and clarinet. Much prefer to sing!

 

[Margi29]

On a total different subject, I've read in news today that a 95 year old dementia sufferer is suspected of the murder of his 61 year old carer. The man won't have a clue what he's done, and the poor carer. RIP. Her family and his must be devastated.

I hate this disease

 

[Sam Luvit]

Hi Sam

How's the MOT gone with poppet ???

Trying to get her booked in early next week, has to juggle available times with driver & mums appointments. I might need a bottle of CM Spiced when I get the results eeeek

 

[Sam Luvit]

On a total different subject, I've read in news today that a 95 year old dementia sufferer is suspected of the murder of his 61 year old carer. The man won't have a clue what he's done, and the poor carer. RIP. Her family and his must be devastated.

I hate this disease

That’s awful. I’ve not seen that anywhere, I’ll have to take a read about :-(

 

[love.dad.but..]

On a total different subject, I've read in news today that a 95 year old dementia sufferer is suspected of the murder of his 61 year old carer. The man won't have a clue what he's done, and the poor carer. RIP. Her family and his must be devastated.

I hate this disease

I saw that report and just felt such despair for the elderly gentleman and of course the carer who has lost her life and both families. Devastating vile illness.

 

[Slugsta]

Afternoon all,

Margi, I haven't seen that report. How utterly awful for everyone involved

WE had a call this morning from my BFF, inviting us over for a cream tea this afternoon. It would have been rude to refuse

 

[Sam Luvit]

Mum was very unsteady this morning, although she’s spent the day in the garden, she’s looking very vacant & is not “happy”. It’s like it’s just too much effort for her

I think she’s going to bed soon.

She seems to age almost daily :-(

 

[Amethyst59]

Mum was very unsteady this morning, although she’s spent the day in the garden, she’s looking very vacant & is not “happy”. It’s like it’s just too much effort for her

I think she’s going to bed soon.

She seems to age almost daily :-(

Is it possible she’s going down with something?

 

[Slugsta]

Sam, I hope your mum is now in bed and that you will soon be following!

 

[Sam Luvit]

Is it possible she’s going down with something?

I don’t think so, it’s like she loses a bit more each day. She sleeps, wakes with a start & is so obviously lost, no clue as to where, what or why, then picks up a book, or grabs at her drink ... the sort of reaction you or I would have at realising somethings not right & trying to pretend all is ok. It just makes me so sad to see this

 

[Sam Luvit]

Sam, I hope your mum is now in bed and that you will soon be following!

It took a whole to get her to bed. I was just going myself, but she’s up again, so I’ll give it a bit then I’ll follow

 

[Sam Luvit]

No wonder I’m getting the carers mixed up, we had 14 different carers last week! I was thinking I must be getting a rubbish memory myself as I can’t seem to remember who any of them are, so I checked through the rota.... so much for “regular core carers” that we were promised

I’m so fed up with calling the office complaining about times, changes to times they don’t bother to tell me about, but a different Carer for every single call is ridiculous

 

[Margi29]

No wonder I’m getting the carers mixed up, we had 14 different carers last week! I was thinking I must be getting a rubbish memory myself as I can’t seem to remember who any of them are, so I checked through the rota.... so much for “regular core carers” that we were promised

I’m so fed up with calling the office complaining about times, changes to times they don’t bother to tell me about, but a different Carer for every single call is ridiculous

I agree, it's just not right, don't the company realise that dementia needs some consistency ?? Fools !!!

Was at mums last night, think I got the better night

In comparison to carer on Friday, mum was in bed at 12, then up and down all night till 5 when she decided on a shower, carer gave her breakfast around 6 and left at 8. Mum told me later that day, nobody had been

My sister stayed over on Saturday night, in the morning mum said ' my daughter bought me this new kettle and toaster ' my sister said ' yes I did "
Mum said ' your not my younger daughter or my eldest daughter ' my sister was absolutely gutted, she cried over phone to me . Damn disease !!!!

 

[Slugsta]

Afternoon all (and it is another glorious one here in sunny Poole!),

Sam, I know how hard it is to see our PWDs gradually eaten by this vile disease

Margi, you too. I am sorry your sis was so upset.

Huge, squishy (((hugs))) to you all.