Hello.
My mum has Alzheimer's and vascular dementia which has progressed over the last few months. She lives at home with dad as her sole carer and unfortunately I live 4 hours drive away.
Having looked after mum this week whilst dad has gone on a break, I realise they need support.
Mum cannot do anything herself, other than dress and toilet etc. She doesn't know how to shower or wash hair so I think she needs help with this (she smells!), cannot cook, cannot make a cup of tea, cannot use a tv remote etc.
They live in Suffolk, UK and currently get no support other than a 3 monthly visit from a CSIP person sent by surgery just to check in all ok. No financial support (i applied for benefit but rejected, they are financially ok at the moment but i worry about care home costs!).
I feel we are unsupported and don't know where to get help, how often she would need a home visit (for example) and how much this would cost. My dad is also very stubborn and won't ask for help so I feel I need to get this in place for them.
Can anyone advise what they do and how frequent they get home helps in, what they get them to do and if this is helpful etc? An idea of costs would be useful too .
Thank you all.
You carers are angels!
Cazabelle x
My mum has Alzheimer's and vascular dementia which has progressed over the last few months. She lives at home with dad as her sole carer and unfortunately I live 4 hours drive away.
Having looked after mum this week whilst dad has gone on a break, I realise they need support.
Mum cannot do anything herself, other than dress and toilet etc. She doesn't know how to shower or wash hair so I think she needs help with this (she smells!), cannot cook, cannot make a cup of tea, cannot use a tv remote etc.
They live in Suffolk, UK and currently get no support other than a 3 monthly visit from a CSIP person sent by surgery just to check in all ok. No financial support (i applied for benefit but rejected, they are financially ok at the moment but i worry about care home costs!).
I feel we are unsupported and don't know where to get help, how often she would need a home visit (for example) and how much this would cost. My dad is also very stubborn and won't ask for help so I feel I need to get this in place for them.
Can anyone advise what they do and how frequent they get home helps in, what they get them to do and if this is helpful etc? An idea of costs would be useful too .
Thank you all.
You carers are angels!
Cazabelle x