Mum has just moved to a nursing home after being in residential care. I don't know whether there is a difference in care between the two types of homes but i have found the nursing Home is a breath of fresh air and now regret not moving mum sooner (she was in the residential home for 2 and half years and I wasn't happy with it but other relatives kept telling me they could be a lot worse so I stuck it out). Sadly mum has regressed terribly after 7weeks in hospital so cannot take advantage of the facilities in the new Home. Mum can't walk and has to be hoisted, she can't feed or drink by herself is doubly incontinent and spends most of the time with her eyes closed. She doesn't know me and as far as i can tell is not aware of her surroundings other than if it cold and she will sigh contentedly if i cover her. The Home are taking residents on an outing to look at a garden and my feeling is that this could be very disruptive and frightening for her. She is currently quite relaxed most of the time (although almost comatosed) whereas previously in hospital and former home, she would have prolonged bouts of screaming. The last time i took her out was Christmas to my house when she could walk but she spent the day half asleep or whimpering. I only wish that i could know what the best approach is. Is mum's deterioration after spending 7 weeks in hospital permanent? Should i insist on trying to stimulate her, get her physio to try and get her to walk? She has been in the bew home for 3 weeks. 10 weeks ago She was fully mobile, continent, feeding herself, communicating in her own way, enjoying music and knew me. Now that's all gone. As time goes on i am thinking there is no chance of getting any of that back and i am so tired of fighting for OT and other help for her then coming across barriers. I am also thinking she would be happier not to go on any outing and it's best to keep things simple for her and embrace how she is now. Or have i just given up on her. I just don't know.