My 91year old mother was diagnosed 2 years ago, though I suspect she has had vascular dementia/Alzheimer's for a lot longer..I am her primary carer..She has always been in denial. She is now doubly incontinent but is also in denial. If I suggest pads, she becomes aggressve. She thinks she is still capable of cooking & cleaning. She has macular degeneration therefore restricted eyesight. The fire brigade has been out because of leaving a chip pan boiling on the hob. She'll get up in the night and put things in the oven. Which, are unrecognisable, as so burnt. She denies she did it..I also care for my disabled husband and get little support from family..My mother won' hear of carers or a home. My own health is suffering. HELP ...