Hello, Willow. Welcome to Talking Point. It is horrible lying awake at night, everything seems so much worse. It is such a hard decision to make the move to a care home, but so many of us on this forum have found that it has been absolutely the right decision. My husband moved about six weeks ago, and already I feel more rested, healthier, happier...and he is too! No more grumpy, sleep deprived wife trying to cope 24 hours a day. He has good, consistent, kind care.Hi , I've joined forum as lying awake upset. my mum nd dad have been living with dementia for some years now. mum has now had 2 strokes and is moving to a care home this week. I know this is the right time and choice but have so many conflicting emotions. my dad is now alone at home too so the struggle continues. must admit I feel guilty,, alone and emotionally drained. Can't sleep and yet am so tired.
Your dad can enjoy visiting your mum and will benefit from the rest. I don’t deny that he is going to take some time to adjust to living alone, and that you will need to be involved...but this is not necessarily going to be a bad thing for any of you.
Will you consider starting your own thread? You will find the members are so friendly and welcoming...and helpful. Many will have been in exactly your position and there is a wealth of knowledge and support here.
Double click on the ‘forum’ link. Select ‘I care for a person with dementia’ and then select start a new thread.