Hi
After caring for years for my mum with Alz who died three years ago, I am now in the postion of caring for my 81 year old dad who now has dementia.
I didn't marry til 3 years ago when I was 39 and my mum was dead then I had a son at 40 who turned 2 last week. I continued to live with my dad because he asked me to. I love him dearly but he sometimes is driving me nuts, probably because I am trying to give my son all my attention but I cannot even take him on an outing because dad can't walk far.
I finally managed to persuade two of my three siblings to take him for Sunday lunch, this has happened 3 times in the past 3 months and it's like being let out of prison.
I am a very caring natured person and have been with dad every day of my life since I was born but is it possible that carers can actually run out of compassion? Does anyone else feel like this, he's been a great dad and I could not say one bad word about him but it's the constant stalking I just cannot bear it.
I feel I'm going mad. We're off for the pre screening memory clinic on Thurs to try to see exactly what dad has, the rest of the family think there will be a magic drug to stop it all, but I've been here before with mum and I never got anywhere.
I just really needed to purge myself, thanks anyone for listening.
After caring for years for my mum with Alz who died three years ago, I am now in the postion of caring for my 81 year old dad who now has dementia.
I didn't marry til 3 years ago when I was 39 and my mum was dead then I had a son at 40 who turned 2 last week. I continued to live with my dad because he asked me to. I love him dearly but he sometimes is driving me nuts, probably because I am trying to give my son all my attention but I cannot even take him on an outing because dad can't walk far.
I finally managed to persuade two of my three siblings to take him for Sunday lunch, this has happened 3 times in the past 3 months and it's like being let out of prison.
I am a very caring natured person and have been with dad every day of my life since I was born but is it possible that carers can actually run out of compassion? Does anyone else feel like this, he's been a great dad and I could not say one bad word about him but it's the constant stalking I just cannot bear it.
I feel I'm going mad. We're off for the pre screening memory clinic on Thurs to try to see exactly what dad has, the rest of the family think there will be a magic drug to stop it all, but I've been here before with mum and I never got anywhere.
I just really needed to purge myself, thanks anyone for listening.
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