Recently my dad who is in his early 80 had another fall at home, which ended up with him in the local hospital for 5 weeks and the following was discovered
He had his 3rd stroke
He has vascular dementia
He did the dementia test and got 11 out of 30
My dad is now back home, but a different man to when he went in hospital
He has sold his car as his driving licence has now been taken off him
He sleeps most of the day and night - but I put this down to the medication he is on
When the local doctor made a house call not long after he had been discharged from the hospital my mum did not want either my brother or myself there when the doctor called
My mum is not coping well with my dad's condition - frustration has started to show as she is now housebound a lot of the time as she does not drive a car any more - she last drove over 20 years ago and is afraid to get behind the wheel of a car.
My brother lives 150 miles or so from my parents and does not make the conscientious effort to come home regularly to support both my parents and assist with things
I am left to run round after my parents most of the time and hold down a full time job
My parents won't accept help and the family is very disjointed for all sorts of reasons
Its hard work to deal with my parents and mum doesn't seem to understand that I would like to get on with my life (as I'm in my mid 40's still single and live alone), do all the things that I should have done by now and haven't for what ever reason.
Any thoughts or help would be appreciated as I'm beating myself up mentally as to what I have done wrong
He had his 3rd stroke
He has vascular dementia
He did the dementia test and got 11 out of 30
My dad is now back home, but a different man to when he went in hospital
He has sold his car as his driving licence has now been taken off him
He sleeps most of the day and night - but I put this down to the medication he is on
When the local doctor made a house call not long after he had been discharged from the hospital my mum did not want either my brother or myself there when the doctor called
My mum is not coping well with my dad's condition - frustration has started to show as she is now housebound a lot of the time as she does not drive a car any more - she last drove over 20 years ago and is afraid to get behind the wheel of a car.
My brother lives 150 miles or so from my parents and does not make the conscientious effort to come home regularly to support both my parents and assist with things
I am left to run round after my parents most of the time and hold down a full time job
My parents won't accept help and the family is very disjointed for all sorts of reasons
Its hard work to deal with my parents and mum doesn't seem to understand that I would like to get on with my life (as I'm in my mid 40's still single and live alone), do all the things that I should have done by now and haven't for what ever reason.
Any thoughts or help would be appreciated as I'm beating myself up mentally as to what I have done wrong