Dear All
Not sure if this post will help me or not but any advice would be most welcome.
Attended the hospital eye clinic 11th April and my mum needs a cataract removed from each eye. The first will be done 8th May. My mum’s dad was in WW1 and had a lot of damage done to his eyes in a Chlorine gas attack. My mum grew up in a household where a parent had very poor sight and the constant refrain was “be careful of your eyes”.
My mum’s short term memory is now very poor and I get her to all doctor, dentist, foot lady, hospital, etc, appointments. I live with my mum and basically I am her sole carer. She is in total denial as regards there being any memory problem and will not return to the Memory Clinic. The GP and Memory Clinic believe my mum’s memory problem is linked to her past vascular problems, resulting in past heart surgery. All that has been developed in an earlier thread and it is specifically the cataract matter I am seeking guidance on.
My mother remembers the pending cataract treatment. As happened previously my mum remembers some recent events, if they are linked to strong emotions, in this case worry. Each day starts with me giving my mum her medications. Without any prompting my mum starts questioning about the cataract treatment, when it is exactly, etc. I can answer all the questions, reassure, etc, but within thirty minutes it starts again, with my mum remembering none of the answers. I can get in this loop repeatedly with mum and distraction does not work. I accept the logic of the loop but just need to try and reduce it.
Any suggestions or is it the case of just getting through the next three weeks? Any advice would be welcome. This issue is trivial when compared to other people’s problems on this site and I am committed to caring and helping my mum as her condition gets worse. It just seemed worth asking in case someone has experienced something similar.
Not sure if this post will help me or not but any advice would be most welcome.
Attended the hospital eye clinic 11th April and my mum needs a cataract removed from each eye. The first will be done 8th May. My mum’s dad was in WW1 and had a lot of damage done to his eyes in a Chlorine gas attack. My mum grew up in a household where a parent had very poor sight and the constant refrain was “be careful of your eyes”.
My mum’s short term memory is now very poor and I get her to all doctor, dentist, foot lady, hospital, etc, appointments. I live with my mum and basically I am her sole carer. She is in total denial as regards there being any memory problem and will not return to the Memory Clinic. The GP and Memory Clinic believe my mum’s memory problem is linked to her past vascular problems, resulting in past heart surgery. All that has been developed in an earlier thread and it is specifically the cataract matter I am seeking guidance on.
My mother remembers the pending cataract treatment. As happened previously my mum remembers some recent events, if they are linked to strong emotions, in this case worry. Each day starts with me giving my mum her medications. Without any prompting my mum starts questioning about the cataract treatment, when it is exactly, etc. I can answer all the questions, reassure, etc, but within thirty minutes it starts again, with my mum remembering none of the answers. I can get in this loop repeatedly with mum and distraction does not work. I accept the logic of the loop but just need to try and reduce it.
Any suggestions or is it the case of just getting through the next three weeks? Any advice would be welcome. This issue is trivial when compared to other people’s problems on this site and I am committed to caring and helping my mum as her condition gets worse. It just seemed worth asking in case someone has experienced something similar.