In my case, what I cannot get my head around is that he now pees in the wash hand basin in the bathroom - oh, how I wish we had an ensuite, or cloakroom he could use -but we don't !!
I had to deal with this one too. I took everything off the sink (soapetc) and followed him with antibacterial spray. And lots of rinsing. I think it might be that the sink looks a little like a urinal. Also I did have fewer floor puddles...one or the other needed cleaning each time!
As far as the last straw is concerned...I think we all have one, though there are a number of false ones along the way.
I am sure you are correct there - looking like a urinal!! And the fewer puddles on the floor - perhaps bathrooms in houses should have urinals fitted - just a thought!
Yes, the small things accumulate, don't they. I don't have the peeing in the pedestal (Could a woman do that?!!!) thing but one of my pet hates is when my wife tries to help with the washing up. I cringe when I see what she does but let her get on with it as it's good for her to feel she's helping. I don't tell her I have to redo the washing when she's out of the room!In my case, what I cannot get my head around is that he now pees in the wash hand basin in the bathroom - oh, how I wish we had an ensuite, or cloakroom he could use -but we don't !!
Oh quite right indeedOh definitely it's often a protracted period of 'little things' which can suddenly build up and send one over the edge. The analogy of the straw on the camel's back is quite apt. It's carrying a 'load' for a long time, which one has become used to and then suddenly having one slight thing added, which pushes one to distraction disproportional with the actual trigger.
Definitely. I sailed (well sort of kayaked) through the lack of continence, the refusal to shower etc but what got to me was the stupidest things: Like she would not flush the loo at night in case she woke someone (she had her own en-suite bathroom, different floor to other bedrooms) and she would always get up to poo in the night; and tissues, tissues, tissues - bits of kitchen roll, toilet roll, handkerchiefs and just bits of paper generally, folded and tucked away under cushions, under the mattress, in bags (hand and shopping), under car seats, under rugs...
Don't we all.I just wish Alzheimers was never invented !
Just how I feel, other people think they know what it is like but they don’t, yiu have to experience it to know.Don't we all.
I know there are lots of other horrible illnesses,but this is, in my opinion,the cruellest, because it is so protracted and we lose them so, so slowly and heart-breaking to watch. Without being able to influence their or our lives for the better n any way.
Just a thought, someone on here said they bought a heated throw (plug in I think), my mum refuses to use one, but your husband might like one? Means you don't have to have the heating full on.I can so agree with "it's the little things"
OH continually complains of feeling cold even when the heating is on at full blast. He wears a woolly hat in doors, which doesn't annoy me, but he tucks his trouser bottoms in his socks because the draught makes his legs cold! He looks looks so silly. I wonder if we can still buy cycle clips Lol
I just wish Alzheimers was never invented !
I can recommend these, my m-il had one. they are an 'over-blanket and use less electricity than a light bulb. Plus you don't get over-heated yourself.ust a thought, someone on here said they bought a heated throw (plug in I think), my mum refuses to use one, but your husband might like one? Means you don't have to have the heating full on.
I'm just going to get her one anyway. So many times I've gone ahead with ideas in spite of the objections and it's worked! Thanks for this tip.I can recommend these, my m-il had one. they are an 'over-blanket and use less electricity than a light bulb. Plus you don't get over-heated yourself.
Yes well put. And one’s reaction appears to others to be out of all proportion to the infinitesimally small - or even relatively small - trigger. Maddening. It’s hard enough that others cannot understand what the 24/7 carer’s deal is like. It makes it so much worse, and the gulf in comprehension - frustrating at the best of times - is then exacerbated by the view that we are overreacting.Oh definitely it's often a protracted period of 'little things' which can suddenly build up and send one over the edge. The analogy of the straw on the camel's back is quite apt. It's carrying a 'load' for a long time, which one has become used to and then suddenly having one slight thing added, which pushes one to distraction disproportional with the actual trigger.
Yes well put. And one’s reaction appears to others to be out of all proportion to the infinitesimally small - or even relatively small - trigger. Maddening. It’s hard enough that others cannot understand what the 24/7 carer’s deal is like. It makes it so much worse, and the gulf in comprehension - frustrating at the best of times - is then exacerbated by the view that we are overreacting.