I appreciate that in these enlightened days we all feel the need to have a balanced diet - and I certainly agree that it's important for YOU to eat well so that you keep healthy - for your wife, right now, it's more about making sure she keeps energy levels up so eating junk is better than not eating - definitely keep trying to slip in fruit and 'healthy' stuff, maybe add in some of the balanced drinks that are on the market, your wife might take to milkshakes made with these, or make your own with fruit, maybe smoothies
dad loved trifles and jellies so I made those with massive amounts of fruit in, and he was happy with that - I cut up fruit so it was bite sized and he ate that more readily than just giving him and apple - at breakfast he had porridge with berries added and a banana
he did move back to eating meals - and then I realised he was also unsure of exactly what to do with cutlery etc - so I ate with him and sat so he could watch what I did and copy (we always had meals at the table so the plate was on a solid surface) - and I sneakily cut up his food before I presented it to him (sometimes I also cut up mine as he was quick to spot differences!)
I found too that dad was just not drinking, so I made sure we had a drink every 2 hours (roughly) so that I knew he had drunk enough during the day - I'm afraid I also 'nagged' him to drink, just gentle prompts eg this is lovely juice, have a few more slurps dad - and I always drank with him so he saw I was doing the same
I did find that if I got tense, dad got tense - so I learned to keep a calm front up whatever was going on, and reassured him that he was doing well/right when he did eg this meal is going down well, dad, must make it again soon; that glass of juice disappeared quickly, dad, must buy some more - I know it may sound patronising but dad did seem to like being praised and included in choices (though I quickly stopped actually offering him choices as that just confused him and led to a refusal - so I handed him whatever as though he was, of course, going to accept it)
sorry - didn't mean to go on
best wishes to you both[/QUOTE]
I have a slow cook pot but I am not the most inventive of cooks so where do you find nutritional values of foods please. I think the taste buds must be affected as she says everything is salty and I have to make sure that the temperatures are just right. My family are vegan so can't help much as they consume loads of food that have to be chewed up and take too much time to eat.
I have a slow cook pot but I am not the most inventive of cooks so where do you find nutritional values of foods please. I think the taste buds must be affected as she says everything is salty and I have to make sure that the temperatures are just right. My family are vegan so can't help much as they consume loads of food that have to be chewed up and take too much time to eat.
I have a slow cook pot but I am not the most inventive of cooks so where do you find nutritional values of foods please. I think the taste buds must be affected as she says everything is salty and I have to make sure that the temperatures are just right. My family are vegan so can't help much as they consume loads of food that have to be chewed up and take too much time to eat.
EdgsonW, post: 1501421,
Hi, It can be very stressful indeed trying to prepare food for your OH since it would appear that many with this condition appear to change their previous needs, wants, likes and dislikes.
Good nutrition is a goal we would all love to achieve, but sometimes too it is a case of giving them food you know they can eat. My OH used to eat anything and I could be as creative as I wanted but now my creativity has been sorely tested to the limit since any meat that requires chewing is pushed to the side, usually after he has asked if this is donkey meat.
If you want to check on nutritional values, try entering those words in the 'search engine of your computer'. You should get the Nutritional Pyramid which shows the breakdown of foods and their proportions which can be a useful guide. However, maybe you are giving yourself a hard time.
Perhaps the best you can do is to try to include meat or fish, and vegetables with something starchy like potatoes or rice, followed by fruit and yogurt or stewed fruit and custard. Fresh fruit chopped up into jelly is tasty and easy to eat.
But at the end of the day, if they eat at all then it is a bonus. That is why 3-4 times a week I serve homemade soup which I have blended - blending hides a multitude of contents and is easy for him to eat - no chewing. Because the soups have meat and veg or pulses and veg then they are fairly nutritionally balanced. I usually follow the soup with a very small dinner as too much food on the plate overwhelms him.
At the moment I am down to about 5-6 dinner choices that I know he enjoys. Sausages cooked slowly in onion gravy with potatoes and mixed vegetables (about as exciting as cold rice pudding) but he eats and enjoys and eats the lot. Likewise with steakburgers - same treatment. Roast Chicken dinner. Homemade chicken and leak pies (or pile chopped cooked chicken, peas, mushrooms into a white sauce and serve with vegetables. Cooked bacon joint and vegetables. Fish in batter and chips.
Curry, I can no longer make the curries I used to as according to himself they are 'very messy' -yep nature of the beast. So I chop onions, carrots, parsnips up small cook them down in the curry sauce and then blend. I then pour the curry sauce onto chicken strips or prawns and serve with rice...avoiding the messy look but again providing him something that is tasty and that he can easily eat.
Yes tmy OH tends to eat 'rubbish' with relish - sweets or chocolates, doughnuts and the latest craze is the Irish Cream drink.... probably about a bottle a week ...but at this stage I am not going to worry unduly.
Guess what I am saying is you have enough stress to cope with, try not to let food be one more. Keep it simple and yes if like me you have to come down to a very limited choice, then so be it... My OH is getting food, there is a reasonable variety, he eats the meals without trouble so we are all happy....at the moment at least.
Hope it works out well for you.
Mx