Some good news, Al. Another problem seems to have found a solutionHis. So far so good, two showers and one hairwash. I think we can say that the wetroom is a winner. Al
Some good news, Al. Another problem seems to have found a solutionHis. So far so good, two showers and one hairwash. I think we can say that the wetroom is a winner. Al
Hi.. Not once did I think it was a bad idea, not once but a thousand times ☺ all's good for now Al.Some good news, Al. Another problem seems to have found a solution
Hi again. Certainly wasn't intending to post again so soon. But as it's the wrong side of midnight and once again find sleep isn't coming easy tonight, this seemed a good idea. It's looking to me as though we really are all in this together. So many similarities everywhere on this site. It could be seen as depressing, or, it could be seen as a wealth of useful information. I have a question, and I know someone, somewhere out there will have a number of ideas and suggestions for me. Mealtimes are becoming a nightmare. Just lately the food smells funny, it's too hot ,it's not hot enough, is this the one we normally have, it just doesn't taste right, the plates, cups etc smell perfumed. To me it seems just an excuse not to eat. And believe me it's any excuse not to eat. But any amount of junk goes down a treat. I know the obvious answers, don't buy the crisps, chocolate, cake and biscuits. You try stopping her. It's like having a very grown up child. If food isn't hot enough, heat it, no, can't have that. If it's too hot , let it stand, good grief no, can't have it its too hot. You just can't reason with her. And that's only meal times. This isn't working, I'm even more awake now. The reason I'm concerned about her lack of normal appetite is over the last couple of years she's lost about forty lbs give or take. It's important too that she has a nutritional diet now more so than ever. But try telling her that. I know that there are lots of things I could try but one of the problems is that she doesn't like change. Just keeping to the tried and tested isn't working. If she had the choice she'd have beans on toast every meal. I've wondered if the dementia has altered her sense of taste. Anyway, best go now. Croissants for breakfast, can't go wrong there, can I? Al
Hi AL 60.Hi again. Certainly wasn't intending to post again so soon. But as it's the wrong side of midnight and once again find sleep isn't coming easy tonight, this seemed a good idea. It's looking to me as though we really are all in this together. So many similarities everywhere on this site. It could be seen as depressing, or, it could be seen as a wealth of useful information. I have a question, and I know someone, somewhere out there will have a number of ideas and suggestions for me. Mealtimes are becoming a nightmare. Just lately the food smells funny, it's too hot ,it's not hot enough, is this the one we normally have, it just doesn't taste right, the plates, cups etc smell perfumed. To me it seems just an excuse not to eat. And believe me it's any excuse not to eat. But any amount of junk goes down a treat. I know the obvious answers, don't buy the crisps, chocolate, cake and biscuits. You try stopping her. It's like having a very grown up child. If food isn't hot enough, heat it, no, can't have that. If it's too hot , let it stand, good grief no, can't have it its too hot. You just can't reason with her. And that's only meal times. This isn't working, I'm even more awake now. The reason I'm concerned about her lack of normal appetite is over the last couple of years she's lost about forty lbs give or take. It's important too that she has a nutritional diet now more so than ever. But try telling her that. I know that there are lots of things I could try but one of the problems is that she doesn't like change. Just keeping to the tried and tested isn't working. If she had the choice she'd have beans on toast every meal. I've wondered if the dementia has altered her sense of taste. Anyway, best go now. Croissants for breakfast, can't go wrong there, can I? Al
OTE="AL60, post: 1351433, member: 61921"]Hi again. Certainly wasn't intending to post again so soon. But as it's the wrong side of midnight and once again find sleep isn't coming easy tonight, this seemed a good idea. It's looking to me as though we really are all in this together. So many similarities everywhere on this site. It could be seen as depressing, or, it could be seen as a wealth of useful information. I have a question, and I know someone, somewhere out there will have a number of ideas and suggestions for me. Mealtimes are becoming a nightmare. Just lately the food smells funny, it's too hot ,it's not hot enough, is this the one we normally have, it just doesn't taste right, the plates, cups etc smell perfumed. To me it seems just an excuse not to eat. And believe me it's any excuse not to eat. But any amount of junk goes down a treat. I know the obvious answers, don't buy the crisps, chocolate, cake and biscuits. You try stopping her. It's like having a very grown up child. If food isn't hot enough, heat it, no, can't have that. If it's too hot , let it stand, good grief no, can't have it its too hot. You just can't reason with her. And that's only meal times. This isn't working, I'm even more awake now. The reason I'm concerned about her lack of normal appetite is over the last couple of years she's lost about forty lbs give or take. It's important too that she has a nutritional diet now more so than ever. But try telling her that. I know that there are lots of things I could try but one of the problems is that she doesn't like change. Just keeping to the tried and tested isn't working. If she had the choice she'd have beans on toast every meal. I've wondered if the dementia has altered her sense of taste. Anyway, best go now. Croissants for breakfast, can't go wrong there, can I? Al
Hi. Thanks , it's something of a consolation to know we're all in this together, Al.@AL60 I really feel for you. I have had a bad evening but nothing like as bad as yours. We all keep going as best we can. Hope you have a decent night.
Hi. Even when you get some time to yourself, it's spent recovering, then before you know it it's bedtime then you go to bed shattered and too tired to sleep so I sometimes post on here then next thing I know it's one thirty then five hours later it's time to get up and it starts all over again. But don't worry, it gets better, i was just going to say it can't get much worse but that would be a stupid thing to say. Because it can get a lot worse. If only she could see that I am only trying to do my best. But that's not going to happen is it. Today has been a particularly stressful day. A year ago when she was getting her tooth sorted it was a big deal, she couldn't wait to get it done . But now , she isn't really bothered, I'm more concerned than she is. So I don't think it's really that that's bothering her. So, i think that tonight I'll break with tradition and have an early night. so, for no
w, goodnight Al.
Hi. Even when you get some time to yourself, it's spent recovering, then before you know it it's bedtime then you go to bed shattered and too tired to sleep so I sometimes post on here then next thing I know it's one thirty then five hours later it's time to get up and it starts all over again. But don't worry, it gets better, i was just going to say it can't get much worse but that would be a stupid thing to say. Because it can get a lot worse. If only she could see that I am only trying to do my best. But that's not going to happen is it. Today has been a particularly stressful day. A year ago when she was getting her tooth sorted it was a big deal, she couldn't wait to get it done . But now , she isn't really bothered, I'm more concerned than she is. So I don't think it's really that that's bothering her. So, i think that tonight I'll break with tradition and have an early night. so, for now, goodnight Al.
One day at a time. Today was good.Hi. Today has been the best day I've had for some time. There have been many distractions which I suspect have kept my wife occupied. Perhaps every day should be like today, barely a minute to ourselves but then, maybe not, I couldn't keep up. Tomorrow, another dentist appointment, not for me, but for my wife. That should fill an afternoon. Then that's it, nothing else on tomorrow's calendar, i just hope she doesn't decide to give me double grief tomorrow to make up for today. I'm sure she won't. Got to think positive. Well that's it, done for another day, so, goodnight , Al.
Hi. I too usually sleep all night , but find I'm very often tired during the day, i sometimes wonder if it's really quality sleep or the kind of sleep I used to get when still at work , especially between nights. But, up to now today has been quiet. The carer has arrived on time , that's improved too since our meeting with the carer company. It would increase both our stress levels if they were late. So for now it's a trip to the shops, home for lunch , cheese off toast again, then I've got a two-hour break. Now, where's the sledge,,, hang on, where's the snow? I have an alternative plan for the afternoon. Good job really, Al.@AL60 I know exactly how you feel about the tendency to relax after good days. After two days of keeping control of OHs wine intake by Machiavellian methods, not entirely with cooperation, I feel quite exhausted mentally myself. I usually sleep well but last night I had a wakeful period and I just thought to myself, I cannot go on evening in evening out being vigilant. This morning he was up, bright and rational, so feel my efforts were worth it and can renew my resolve.
Hope you enjoy your two hours of freedom.today is Friday and I've got another two hours planned for this afternoon, so it's not all bad is it!!