Mum has been in respite care for two weeks now with the only major problem being her lack of sleep although she seems to manage ok with very little.
My visit on Saturday was ok but mum had a few rears and it took all of my distraction tactics to keep the visit on an even keel. Today was a different story. She seemed sad and didn't want to stay there, more tears and shaking. She is terrified of being on her own and the staff have been trying different ways of getting mum to have some sleep, not medication I might add, but sitting in her room with her doing paperwork while mum is in bed and encouraging her to nap in one of the recliners.
I noticed that mums feet were puffy, something I'd never seen before and her slippers were tight. I told the manager and she said it was due to mum wandering and not resting.
None of the residents seem to eat much but then if they aren't expending the energy they won't.
We have to make a decision soon as to whether mum stays there as a permanent resident and it breaks my heart.
I've been told by more than one carer that when I'm not there she is happy and sociable, joining in any activities that are on offer.
So my conclusion is to limit my visits in these early days and keep mum as a respite resident for two more weeks as at the moment I'm torn as to know what to do.
Thanks for letting me sound off and for reading this if you do x
My visit on Saturday was ok but mum had a few rears and it took all of my distraction tactics to keep the visit on an even keel. Today was a different story. She seemed sad and didn't want to stay there, more tears and shaking. She is terrified of being on her own and the staff have been trying different ways of getting mum to have some sleep, not medication I might add, but sitting in her room with her doing paperwork while mum is in bed and encouraging her to nap in one of the recliners.
I noticed that mums feet were puffy, something I'd never seen before and her slippers were tight. I told the manager and she said it was due to mum wandering and not resting.
None of the residents seem to eat much but then if they aren't expending the energy they won't.
We have to make a decision soon as to whether mum stays there as a permanent resident and it breaks my heart.
I've been told by more than one carer that when I'm not there she is happy and sociable, joining in any activities that are on offer.
So my conclusion is to limit my visits in these early days and keep mum as a respite resident for two more weeks as at the moment I'm torn as to know what to do.
Thanks for letting me sound off and for reading this if you do x