Evening everyone
Its been a while since i last posted, but feel the need to talk and ask how other people deal with this situation.
Mum has had late onset Alzheimers for 5 years and in care for 3. Must say care home is superb and she is definitely in the best place.
Ive seen massive changes over last few months each time I visit... her speech is next to none, she cant walk much now without support, if at all, she has lost weight due to loss of appetite and now her swallowing is declining, hence unable to eat or drink properly. She had the RS virus over December/January but has pulled through that.
As a family, we have decided we dont want mum put onto a food drip or suchlike if the need arises, or to go into hospital. Just want her to end her life peacefully, with dignity at the care home, as and when the time comes. GP is also on board with our decision.
My brother lives abroad, as done one son and the other one not too near, but Epilepsy and cant drive at the moment. So i have the whole responsibility on my shoulders, as I have done all this time. Im now finding it incredibly hard to deal with how mum is, knowing she really isnt here or there. No quality of life, just existing. I know she is in the last stages of Alzheimers and we all just want her free of that.
I feel like im in limbo... my "real" mum isnt there, but in theory, she still exists. Does that sound odd? I cant grieve, I cant move on. Just waiting for the inevitable. What a way for someone to see out their days.
Thank you for listening. Im sure many of you must be in the same boat as Im in, sadly.
Its been a while since i last posted, but feel the need to talk and ask how other people deal with this situation.
Mum has had late onset Alzheimers for 5 years and in care for 3. Must say care home is superb and she is definitely in the best place.
Ive seen massive changes over last few months each time I visit... her speech is next to none, she cant walk much now without support, if at all, she has lost weight due to loss of appetite and now her swallowing is declining, hence unable to eat or drink properly. She had the RS virus over December/January but has pulled through that.
As a family, we have decided we dont want mum put onto a food drip or suchlike if the need arises, or to go into hospital. Just want her to end her life peacefully, with dignity at the care home, as and when the time comes. GP is also on board with our decision.
My brother lives abroad, as done one son and the other one not too near, but Epilepsy and cant drive at the moment. So i have the whole responsibility on my shoulders, as I have done all this time. Im now finding it incredibly hard to deal with how mum is, knowing she really isnt here or there. No quality of life, just existing. I know she is in the last stages of Alzheimers and we all just want her free of that.
I feel like im in limbo... my "real" mum isnt there, but in theory, she still exists. Does that sound odd? I cant grieve, I cant move on. Just waiting for the inevitable. What a way for someone to see out their days.
Thank you for listening. Im sure many of you must be in the same boat as Im in, sadly.