Looks like Lynne experiencing similiar with her mum. Basically my Nan is not eating enough.
Nan seems to have deteriorated somewhat during the last month or so and has become very low in mood and unmotivated - both myself and the carers are throwing out lots of food and finding the delivered meals hardly touched. She says she just doesn't feel like eating, feels sick (and has been) and she just feels "bloody awful" - she's very vague here.
Anyway, got some medical advice here and having gone through all the usual things there does not appear to be any medical reasons.
Her nausea seems due to the fact she has an empty stomach - thankfully she is drinking fluids - stools are normal.
Basically she just sits there in her chair with her head low - for some unbeknown reason she disconnected the phone and helpline twice and I found her slipper in her bed.
Spoke to my Aunt whose attitude was less than helpful - it was like 'she wants to die - let her get on with it'.
I can see where this is going to lead - I see it in my job - she will need medical attention with the word ACOPIA!!
I can't be there daily - I work and have a family, who are already being compromised.
I have taken the decision to look for a short stay for her (thankfully she has funds way in excess of Social Service limit) - I seriously think with 24/7 care, she'll first have all her needs (personal care, medication, food, stimulation) seen to and importantly - some motivation as they'll always be folk around to chivvy her along a bit - it could perk her up if nothing else and get her through this phrase. I talked to her about a holiday and being 'looked after' and she was very accepting of this.
Am I doing the right thing?
The future looks certain to be residential care in any case given her deterioration.
I have registered Enduring Power of Attorney - likely to get a bit of **** from my Aunt as she'll see her inheritance dissappear - but my husband will have something to say to her with a few home truths - after all she's only sees her 3 times a year and it's me that's played the caring role and taken all the stress.
Nan seems to have deteriorated somewhat during the last month or so and has become very low in mood and unmotivated - both myself and the carers are throwing out lots of food and finding the delivered meals hardly touched. She says she just doesn't feel like eating, feels sick (and has been) and she just feels "bloody awful" - she's very vague here.
Anyway, got some medical advice here and having gone through all the usual things there does not appear to be any medical reasons.
Her nausea seems due to the fact she has an empty stomach - thankfully she is drinking fluids - stools are normal.
Basically she just sits there in her chair with her head low - for some unbeknown reason she disconnected the phone and helpline twice and I found her slipper in her bed.
Spoke to my Aunt whose attitude was less than helpful - it was like 'she wants to die - let her get on with it'.
I can see where this is going to lead - I see it in my job - she will need medical attention with the word ACOPIA!!
I can't be there daily - I work and have a family, who are already being compromised.
I have taken the decision to look for a short stay for her (thankfully she has funds way in excess of Social Service limit) - I seriously think with 24/7 care, she'll first have all her needs (personal care, medication, food, stimulation) seen to and importantly - some motivation as they'll always be folk around to chivvy her along a bit - it could perk her up if nothing else and get her through this phrase. I talked to her about a holiday and being 'looked after' and she was very accepting of this.
Am I doing the right thing?
The future looks certain to be residential care in any case given her deterioration.
I have registered Enduring Power of Attorney - likely to get a bit of **** from my Aunt as she'll see her inheritance dissappear - but my husband will have something to say to her with a few home truths - after all she's only sees her 3 times a year and it's me that's played the caring role and taken all the stress.
