Since coming out of hospital, my mother in law is on her second care home. The really "nice" one we got her into to start with asked her to leave after a few days because she had been shouting at other residents and "acting in an aggressive way" - not all the time, but they were not set up to deal with people who need constant attention because of their behaviour (let alone frightening other residents) so she was asked to move.
Now after about a week she has suddenly slapped two people. This is quite likely to get her asked to leave again, and heading for a much more restricted environment.
We had some hope she could go home at some point (which she has been asking for, even though, before she went into hospital, she had been asking about going into a home so that she could be somewhere with more people around. But she kept changing her mind.) but I can't see how any care team is going to want to deal with someone aggressive in her own home. She has already managed to scare carers taking her out by shouting at them and being rude to them in public, so this is not 100% new, though she's never taken to hitting out at people in my presence. (She wasn't above a bit of deliberate pushing.) She has always had a temper, and she has been used to "giving herself permission" to lose her temper with people and giving them a talking to, all her life. I now see this coming out again, out of control, and I don't think it is going to get any better.
Does anyone have any experience of this, and what her options might be?
Now after about a week she has suddenly slapped two people. This is quite likely to get her asked to leave again, and heading for a much more restricted environment.
We had some hope she could go home at some point (which she has been asking for, even though, before she went into hospital, she had been asking about going into a home so that she could be somewhere with more people around. But she kept changing her mind.) but I can't see how any care team is going to want to deal with someone aggressive in her own home. She has already managed to scare carers taking her out by shouting at them and being rude to them in public, so this is not 100% new, though she's never taken to hitting out at people in my presence. (She wasn't above a bit of deliberate pushing.) She has always had a temper, and she has been used to "giving herself permission" to lose her temper with people and giving them a talking to, all her life. I now see this coming out again, out of control, and I don't think it is going to get any better.
Does anyone have any experience of this, and what her options might be?