I’ve recited mums history, meds, admissions / discharge/ admission ...to doctors, nurses, OT so many times I almost want to type it out & hand it over & walk away, but I know that won’t get the attention. I need them to see a person. I need them to see the truth
I can’t get my head around the mess I know they are overworked. I understand they have too many people & not enough time. But. Seriously, but, I can’t understand the changes in diagnosis & the callus discharge letter simply listing yet another issue (COPD), with no discussion.
I pushed & pushed & pushed them to scan dad, I knew he’d had a stroke, a blind man could see the drooping face, but they dismissed me until I threatened, they did it one day after they could pin point the date of the stroke. It’s blooming deja vu. Mum was in the same cubicle in resus as dad. Now the UTI only, becomes a TIA, becomes a stroke. The hospital didn’t tell me that. The Physio told me today 3 days after I’ve bought her home
For heavens sake. They let me take her home believing it was a TIA, when they had to have known it was a stroke. In my mind there is a world of difference between the two.
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Hi @Moggymad
No, I didn’t know about those. I will try a search, but if you have a link that wouId be fantastic. “Big pleading grin”
I could see mums Alzheimer’s kicking in, so decided she needed to be out of hospital, discussed with brother & pushed hard to get her out. Pretty much, I’ll just find a way of dealing with it.
I am now looking at bits of our lives & trying to think of what I should do. I’m not a lot of use to her with broken limbs, so I need to try to be sensible.
Absolutely feel your pain (and sorry for the snippages, I wanted to make it more concise to quote)...
My father spent three months in hospital after a fall in 2015. Initial CT scan showed nothing and was presumed a UTI (due to confusion when paramedics arrived). He'd been showing signs of dementia and/or stroke for a few years previous (mobility decline, spacial awareness, drool, plus lots more) and he had previously been referred to a memory clinic which he forgot to attend. While he was in hospital, I asked and asked and repeatedly asked for an MRI scan, which they refused because they didn't think he needed one. They listed his symptoms as being due to UTI, diabetes, COPD. A speech therapist (SALT) saw him towards the end of his "stay" due to his right side drool, and she referred him for an MRI as she saw "Parkinsonian symptoms".
He was then discharged. SIX MONTHS (yes!) later, his GP phoned me to tell me the MRI had shown he has small vessel disease and global atrophy, so his diagnosis was Alzheimer's, vascular dementia, and wernicke-korsakoff syndrome.
In Sept last year he went into hospital with speech issues (they suspected a stroke). CT scan showed three "old" strokes (which weren't there in 2015). They presumed this new episode was a TIA. They discharged him 3 weeks later when THEY considered he was "baseline" (he wasn't) and the social worker in the hospital flatly denied - AND ARGUED WITH ME - my father has dementia OR had a dementia diagnosis, and this is despite me pointing out that his actual physical medical tests PROVED dementia (quite apart from his GP's diagnosis!). The OT promised me that he would be assessed at home.
He was discharged in October and NOBODY has been to see him for further assessments (despite everyone's assurances) and I found out last week that he no longer has a social worker (AGAIN!) as they've put him back onto their "review" list - basically they've parked his file into a cabinet until things change EVEN THOUGH things HAVE changed!
So yes. I know precisely what you're going through, and I wish it wasn't so
Sorry @Sam Luvit i don't know how to do the link that's why I didn't do it but if you search on Google for 'walking gait belts/Harness it will come up with some pics. I chose Amazon to look at, they're not too pricey.
Got images of you out for a walk with one hand hanging on to your mums gait belt & the other hanging on to pooch's lead!
Hi @rainbowcat
How sad is it, that you almost wish for something so awful, to get some help.
I can only suggest you write a letter, listing a time line for your dad, with as much back up as you can, then request a review.
Oh, and I meant to say, I think the idea with the gait belts is that it gives you something to hold onto rather than a person's arm or hand or whatever, so you help with balance and weight transfer, but don't bruise them if they start to slip by grabbing an arm. Not a very technical explanation but I'm sure there are videos on YouTube, although I'd get a professional to show you.
Yes that's what I was thinking. Good idea to ask OT what might be available here. Thanks Sam I'll give it a try next time.
You may find that the OT/physio disapproves of gait belts. They seem to be considered a no-no these days,