I have dementia and no-one to talk to.

Molly64

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Oct 8, 2017
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I too feel the loneliness and isolation of dementia. I know of the fear that you talk of richard and of not knowing how to communicate this. I also have no support and forget what the dr are telling me. Its usally another tablet an antidepressant, that makes my memory worse so i dont bother going now.
I tried posting and replying to post but our memory's are spradic so theres no consistency.
All my so called friends have backed off and i find i am crying a lot of the time and seeming to be feeling very sorry for myself.
Im angry and depressed i think. I hate feeling like this and some days well a lot of days i just want it all to be over with. No wonder ppl dont want to talk to me. I wouldnt want to talk to me.. i know i carnt be easy being a carer but its not easy being us either. Hateful disease this..
Yesterday was a good day i managed to make a roast dinner but today is a different story. Im just so tired i feel if i could just get a good sleep i might be betterable to cope. its tragic more so when you still know what it is thats being lost. Cheers for reading this.. molly
 

NotTooLate

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Jun 10, 2017
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Hello Sharon and thank you for your reply.

I have heard of Blogs, but not really sure what they are, or what I can do with one, how to use it?

Could you give me any advice please?
 

jenniferpa

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Jun 27, 2006
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Hello Sharon and thank you for your reply.

I have heard of Blogs, but not really sure what they are, or what I can do with one, how to use it?

Could you give me any advice please?

Blogs are really just an online diary. I think they can be helpful in recording your own thoughts and experiences, and can be interesting to read. But they are very like a book in that you are really only getting one persons view point. Whereas a forum like this allows you to get a variety of view points.
 

The searcher

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Dec 23, 2017
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Blogs are really just an online diary. I think they can be helpful in recording your own thoughts and experiences, and can be interesting to read. But they are very like a book in that you are really only getting one persons view point. Whereas a forum like this allows you to get a variety of view points.
Why do moods change suddenly and constant jealousy?
 

jenniferpa

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@The searcher : you probably should start your own thread in one of our other forums, such as I care for someone with dementia for your question.
 

NotTooLate

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Jun 10, 2017
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Alvechurch
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hello Richard and Fin
I came across this scheme and wonder if you might find it helpful
https://www.ageuk.org.uk/services/befriending-services/
it needs your postcode entered into the search box, otherwise I'd have looked using the location on your profile - or is there an AgeUK branch near you as they will know about local support - this is their national number 0800 055 6112

as you enjoy Fin's company, I wonder if there are any dog groups near you - I guess your local library would be able to find out for you

have you contacted your Local Authority Adult Services and asked for an assessment of your care needs as you have a right to this - they may be able to offer a place at a day centre to socialise with others, and transport to get there and back - I think this is the number 01905 768053 (from the Worcestershire Council website

I did put in your village to the main AS site listings of local services, and this is the result - just click on it to see the list
http://www.alzheimers.org.uk/info/20011/find_support_near_you#!/results/list?p=0&q={"place":"Alvechurch, United Kingdom","alz":false,"cat":125}


Thank you so much for taking the time to help.

I have contacted our local Alzheimer's Society dementia support worker.

They will and come to see me soon. Then i may try cafe idea. i must say the thought gives me a lot of stress. I know this is daft, but I can not control it.

thank you very much
 
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Shedrech

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Dec 15, 2012
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hi @Richard and Fin
great that you are finding some contacts - hope the person who vixits is helpful
and I don't think that's daft at all - anything new is a challenge and brings with it some anxiety - one step at a time gets you there in the end, and you've taken a few steps now
 

jumbo

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Nov 20, 2017
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My dad had vascular dementia. Do you have support?
My wife has vascular dementia and I am her only support. It is tough seeing a once very active and intelligent reduced to the state that she is in. I just try to make her as happy as possible and I have just enjoyed watching her smile at the Dancing on Ice on TV. A lovely smile makes all of the effort worthwhile.
Jumbo