My dad died in august last year leaving my mum who was diagnosed with mixed dementia in 2015. Sadly, dad never told my sister or myself about this and we were completely unaware as to how bad she actually was. My sister moved in with mum for three months but mum was so nasty to her, it made her ill and Social Services said we must see how mum managed by herself so my sister moved out. Mum cannot cope on her own, phones me on average 30 times a day, does not always eat and cries because she is depressed and lonely. She has refused any outside help from SS apart from an automatic pill dispenser. Her house is big, old and cold and shevis always turning off the heating and she cannot afford to stay there really. I have managed to find her a lovely retirement flat with 24/7 staff there, cooked lunch every day, an hours cleaning a week, right in the centre of a small town so she can walk to the shops, coffee morning every day and outings etc should she want to go. I think once she is there and seeing people of her own age etc she will be so much happier but i dont know how best to get her there without her getting upset. Social services say it would be much better for her than where she is now and that she is not ready for a care home. Has anyone else been in this situation? A couple of people have said to tell her she is having work done to her house and can't stay there for a few weeks. I know when she has stayed with me for a couple of weeks before, she had forgotten where she lived. I intend to stay with her for a few nights to get her used to the flat etc. Any advice would be much appreciated.