I just wanted to add an update to my previous posting and to say thanks for the useful advice.
Both 80+ year old parents have diagnosed Alzheimer's and I'm an only child so all the responsibility for their care and care planning falls upon myself and my wonderfully supportive wife. I've started the application process for Attendance Allowance for each of them and I've tackled the subject of them not coping (shopping, meal planning and preparation, locking themselves out and forgetting the key safe code to get back in again, remembering to shower each day and getting mixed up over medication) and to give them both credit they agree entirely and are willing to go into a care home.
The subject has been raised numerous times recently and they haven't changed their minds and actually are releaved a change is happening and are once more optimistic about their future.
The problem now is finding a home that is suitable for their differing needs as they wish to remain together and both want a twin bedded room which of course are in short supply.
My wife and I have visited some homes and though the staff in them have been amazing and highly dedicated the overall impression is that my parents aren't as bad as many of the residents we've seen. So, we are beginning to question if we've made the right choice of a care home or should we consider extra care housing (assisted living)? A move from where they live now is a definite and they have enough resources to be self funding.
Have other members had similar doubts and has anyone had experience of dealing with both parents who are at different stages of their Alzheimer's?
Both 80+ year old parents have diagnosed Alzheimer's and I'm an only child so all the responsibility for their care and care planning falls upon myself and my wonderfully supportive wife. I've started the application process for Attendance Allowance for each of them and I've tackled the subject of them not coping (shopping, meal planning and preparation, locking themselves out and forgetting the key safe code to get back in again, remembering to shower each day and getting mixed up over medication) and to give them both credit they agree entirely and are willing to go into a care home.
The subject has been raised numerous times recently and they haven't changed their minds and actually are releaved a change is happening and are once more optimistic about their future.
The problem now is finding a home that is suitable for their differing needs as they wish to remain together and both want a twin bedded room which of course are in short supply.
My wife and I have visited some homes and though the staff in them have been amazing and highly dedicated the overall impression is that my parents aren't as bad as many of the residents we've seen. So, we are beginning to question if we've made the right choice of a care home or should we consider extra care housing (assisted living)? A move from where they live now is a definite and they have enough resources to be self funding.
Have other members had similar doubts and has anyone had experience of dealing with both parents who are at different stages of their Alzheimer's?