My mother was diagnosed 3 years ago with vascular dementia and I am her main care giver visiting her in her home regularly throughout the year and having her stay with us at Christmas.
This year I am struggling to juggle Christmas with my family and my mother. She is extremely repetitive and at times very rude and generally I can cope quite well with her on my own, but when my adult children and husband are added to the mix I feel I have to be a buffer between them and her. I’ve tried to help them understand things from her perspective, but they still get very angry and short tempered at some of her comments. I now feel so drained and torn between helping mum have an enjoyable Christmas but also not allowing her inappropriate and repetitive conversations cause anger and upset between my family. It’s taking a toll on my mental health and I’m not sure how much more I can cope with.
This year I am struggling to juggle Christmas with my family and my mother. She is extremely repetitive and at times very rude and generally I can cope quite well with her on my own, but when my adult children and husband are added to the mix I feel I have to be a buffer between them and her. I’ve tried to help them understand things from her perspective, but they still get very angry and short tempered at some of her comments. I now feel so drained and torn between helping mum have an enjoyable Christmas but also not allowing her inappropriate and repetitive conversations cause anger and upset between my family. It’s taking a toll on my mental health and I’m not sure how much more I can cope with.