Hi there,
I’ve found myself here due to this horrendous illness that my Mum is suffering with. My names is Julie and I’m married with 2 beautiful daughters who are 9 + 13. My life is blessed...apart from this horrific condition that Is currently destroying my family.
So the story starts around 4 years ago when my mum was diagnosed with mixed dementia. Didn’t come as a shock but more of a relief as we had a reason for her behaviour. Over time obviously she has got worse. My Dad is a very old fashioned man who has kept a lot to himself as to how bad she really is. 3 months ago he himself was diagnosed with kidney cancer and a date was set for him to have his kidney removed which finally happened on Thursday of this week. There was no question that I would care for my dear Mum and asked my Dad many a times about routines, likes and dislikes etc but was always met with a brick wall and fobbed off with “she’ll be fine, you won’t need to do much”. The decision was made that I would come to my parents house to stay, thankfully it’s only 6 Miles from where I live. On Thursday I took my Dad to the hospital for his operation and buckled up for the ride ahead. Nothing could of prepared me for how bad things are. My mum has gone and I’m left with this nervous, sad child who’s walking around in the body of my Mum. I just want my mum back and I’m so sad. I can’t cry in front of her, even though she introduces me to people as her friend .
My husband and I decided to take her to our house today and stay the night (we’ve had bad snow and quite restricted where they live) as soon as she arrived she cried and said she wanted to see my dad at hospital but the snows to bad to make the trek. I decided to bring her back to her own house so she would feel more comfortable. I feel so bad that I tried to get her to stay at my house and now she can’t stop crying. This is no life for either of my parents. My dad is struggling to recover from his operation and should of been home today but won’t be home until at least Wednesday. Is it meant to feel this **** (excuse my French) this is hell x
I’ve found myself here due to this horrendous illness that my Mum is suffering with. My names is Julie and I’m married with 2 beautiful daughters who are 9 + 13. My life is blessed...apart from this horrific condition that Is currently destroying my family.
So the story starts around 4 years ago when my mum was diagnosed with mixed dementia. Didn’t come as a shock but more of a relief as we had a reason for her behaviour. Over time obviously she has got worse. My Dad is a very old fashioned man who has kept a lot to himself as to how bad she really is. 3 months ago he himself was diagnosed with kidney cancer and a date was set for him to have his kidney removed which finally happened on Thursday of this week. There was no question that I would care for my dear Mum and asked my Dad many a times about routines, likes and dislikes etc but was always met with a brick wall and fobbed off with “she’ll be fine, you won’t need to do much”. The decision was made that I would come to my parents house to stay, thankfully it’s only 6 Miles from where I live. On Thursday I took my Dad to the hospital for his operation and buckled up for the ride ahead. Nothing could of prepared me for how bad things are. My mum has gone and I’m left with this nervous, sad child who’s walking around in the body of my Mum. I just want my mum back and I’m so sad. I can’t cry in front of her, even though she introduces me to people as her friend .
My husband and I decided to take her to our house today and stay the night (we’ve had bad snow and quite restricted where they live) as soon as she arrived she cried and said she wanted to see my dad at hospital but the snows to bad to make the trek. I decided to bring her back to her own house so she would feel more comfortable. I feel so bad that I tried to get her to stay at my house and now she can’t stop crying. This is no life for either of my parents. My dad is struggling to recover from his operation and should of been home today but won’t be home until at least Wednesday. Is it meant to feel this **** (excuse my French) this is hell x