I have been carer for my dad since August, I stepped into care for my dad after I saw my mum was struggling to cope with caring for my dad. I am working 12 hours to care for my dad and am looking at asking work if I can do less hours to be at home to care more for my dad because it is becoming increasingly harder for my mum to come physically with my dad. My mum is 70 and has asthma. My dad is 79, he has dementia, Parkinson's and mobility issues.
I provide the following care for my dad:
• I prepare meals, feed him, give him drinks and sit with him encouraging him to eat
• I address all his continence issues as he is doubly incontinent and manage his intimate hygiene
• I dress him
• I manage his oral hygiene
• I manage his medication
• I manage his general personal hygiene and bathing
• I wash his hair.
• I have a bed sensor for my dad, so I know when he is getting up during the night, so I am on call throughout the night too - he needs assistance for the toilet
• I attend doctor's/hospital appointments with him and my mother
• I sit with my dad when my mum is out
• When my mum is home I am close by in my room on hand should my dad require any care
• I check on him regularly to see if he needs anything and ensure he is clean and dry
I am caring for my dad 24/7 apart from when I am at work 12 hours a week + 6 hours travel time and a regular one hour monthly appointment.
We (my parents and I) are moving into a flat in a retirement housing facility (renting from a social landlord), the age limit is 50 but they are letting me live there despite my age (38) because my mum told them I have to come too because of the care I provide my dad and she can't cope without me. I can't be on the tenancy due to my age, I am just on the books as a member of the household. I am moving in primarily in the role as my dad's carer, I am claiming Universal Credit (payment £249) due to my low income (£335 a month wage), I am unable to get the housing element of UC because I'll be living in the flat with my parents. Due to this my mum said the care I provide my dad can be lieu of rent. However, my dad's financial and property power of attorney (my brother whom I'll refer to as POAX) said I have to pay £200 rent and half of the bills, if I don't agree to pay rent then don't move or if I don't pay rent I have to move out. I have sought legal advice and have me POAX is within his legal rights to charge me rent and take me to court to kick me out if I don't pay.
My parents tenancy states this:
1. The tenancy states: 7.1 You must not sub-let any part of the property without getting our written permission first. We may attach conditions to any permission and we may also vary or revoke any permission given (in which case you must take steps to comply with the variation or revocation - including lawfully evicting your sub-tenant if necessary). ‘Sub-letting’ means giving someone exclusive right to live in part of the property in exchange for the rent they pay you. They will usually do their own cooking and cleaning.
a) Before granting consent we will need you to put the terms of the sub-tenancy in writing. These terms must be acceptable to us. You must tell us the name, age and gender of any person who is residing in the property under any sub-tenancy, both before it is granted and after any changes. If we ask for further information, for example to ensure that any person living in the property is not breaching immigration rules, then you must give us the information we request.
I have contacted the social landlord to confirm if POAX asking me for £200 rent is a breach of my parent's tenancy and if he can get permission from them to sublet to me and create a sub-tenancy.
I am doubtful about this because I cannot be on the tenancy due to my age so why would they allow me to be on a sub-tenancy.
I am going to move into flat with the parents pay a 3rd of the bills. When my dad had capacity he only wanted to pay a 3rd of the bills and no rent. If POAX asks me for rent, I will tell him that if he isn't happy with my living with my parents providing my dad's care then the options are: 1) he gives up work (self-employed), moves in with my parents and cares for my dad, 2) gets a live-in carer (cost £985 a week), 3) put my dad in a care home.
My dad gets higher rate AA.
I am not claiming CA because for every £1 for CA I'd get my UC payment of £249 would be reduced by £1 so I'd be no better off.
I provide the following care for my dad:
• I prepare meals, feed him, give him drinks and sit with him encouraging him to eat
• I address all his continence issues as he is doubly incontinent and manage his intimate hygiene
• I dress him
• I manage his oral hygiene
• I manage his medication
• I manage his general personal hygiene and bathing
• I wash his hair.
• I have a bed sensor for my dad, so I know when he is getting up during the night, so I am on call throughout the night too - he needs assistance for the toilet
• I attend doctor's/hospital appointments with him and my mother
• I sit with my dad when my mum is out
• When my mum is home I am close by in my room on hand should my dad require any care
• I check on him regularly to see if he needs anything and ensure he is clean and dry
I am caring for my dad 24/7 apart from when I am at work 12 hours a week + 6 hours travel time and a regular one hour monthly appointment.
We (my parents and I) are moving into a flat in a retirement housing facility (renting from a social landlord), the age limit is 50 but they are letting me live there despite my age (38) because my mum told them I have to come too because of the care I provide my dad and she can't cope without me. I can't be on the tenancy due to my age, I am just on the books as a member of the household. I am moving in primarily in the role as my dad's carer, I am claiming Universal Credit (payment £249) due to my low income (£335 a month wage), I am unable to get the housing element of UC because I'll be living in the flat with my parents. Due to this my mum said the care I provide my dad can be lieu of rent. However, my dad's financial and property power of attorney (my brother whom I'll refer to as POAX) said I have to pay £200 rent and half of the bills, if I don't agree to pay rent then don't move or if I don't pay rent I have to move out. I have sought legal advice and have me POAX is within his legal rights to charge me rent and take me to court to kick me out if I don't pay.
My parents tenancy states this:
1. The tenancy states: 7.1 You must not sub-let any part of the property without getting our written permission first. We may attach conditions to any permission and we may also vary or revoke any permission given (in which case you must take steps to comply with the variation or revocation - including lawfully evicting your sub-tenant if necessary). ‘Sub-letting’ means giving someone exclusive right to live in part of the property in exchange for the rent they pay you. They will usually do their own cooking and cleaning.
a) Before granting consent we will need you to put the terms of the sub-tenancy in writing. These terms must be acceptable to us. You must tell us the name, age and gender of any person who is residing in the property under any sub-tenancy, both before it is granted and after any changes. If we ask for further information, for example to ensure that any person living in the property is not breaching immigration rules, then you must give us the information we request.
I have contacted the social landlord to confirm if POAX asking me for £200 rent is a breach of my parent's tenancy and if he can get permission from them to sublet to me and create a sub-tenancy.
I am doubtful about this because I cannot be on the tenancy due to my age so why would they allow me to be on a sub-tenancy.
I am going to move into flat with the parents pay a 3rd of the bills. When my dad had capacity he only wanted to pay a 3rd of the bills and no rent. If POAX asks me for rent, I will tell him that if he isn't happy with my living with my parents providing my dad's care then the options are: 1) he gives up work (self-employed), moves in with my parents and cares for my dad, 2) gets a live-in carer (cost £985 a week), 3) put my dad in a care home.
My dad gets higher rate AA.
I am not claiming CA because for every £1 for CA I'd get my UC payment of £249 would be reduced by £1 so I'd be no better off.
