Well at least you seem to have the SW manager on your side Lavender. That's something, in the sorry tale. Have you been to visit the other home you had your eye on recently, just to get a feel for whether you think it might be a better option for your mum?
Hope everyone else is OK. The thread has gone mighty quiet recently! We haven't heard from a few in a while - hopefully you are all OK, if not posting.
Life here continues and I seem to be getting used to it, though I have no idea how sometimes. My worries about using the hoist on my own have fallen by the wayside as I am now using the stand aid (rotunda) to transfer mum around. The belt that comes with it is wonderful, as if mum slumps mid transfer, then the two straps around her bottom cradle her in a semi standing position. I am on the verge of consigning the hoist to the garage, out of the way, but don't want to count my chickens just yet - will wait a few more weeks before I do that. Last night mum managed to eat dinner with a knife and fork. Sometimes she struggles and I give her a spoon, but she seemed to be slowly getting back to 'normal' eating process, so I let her carry on. Her appetite gets better all the time. But, her muddlement is a lot worse. Mornings are better, she is brighter and makes a bit of sense, but usually by evening, when I can see she's tired, then it's just a stream of muddled stuff, much more confusion than before the stroke. Very sad. Sometimes she struggles to complete sentences/find the right words, and sometimes she thinks I am someone else other than her daughter. And, as ever, evenings are when I am at my lowest, and most tired, so get upset more. I guess that's only natural. All sores are now healing. All I need to do now is fix the incontinence and make her walk! Possibly all a step too far, but I will not stop hoping on the walking front. If she never walks again, I have to get used to the difficult way I have to now deal with toileting. If she manages some kind of walking in the future, then at least the toileting and changes may become somewhat easier. I've decided mobility is more important than her becoming continent again. I do exercises and stands with her every day, I can't really do any more than that.