Husband and I started caring for my parents in May 17 - Dad was 4 years into an Alzheimer’s diagnosis / Mum had osteoporatic fractures. Mum became severely ill in July with a delirium episode and was subsequently also diagnosed with mixed type dementia and, due to the delirium, has since suffered with a significantly adjusted baseline. Lucky me .. the full set of parents with dementia. ☹️ We’ve tried to continue to care for Dad whilst working full time, with Mum in respite care (with daily visits) - but now... I’m starting to think it’s all too much and dad needs to go into care too. The guilt is immense. But, selfishly I don’t think we’re up to caring for him. My patience is wearing thin and it can’t be a pleasant experience for Dad when I get cross... also, there is no escape. Husband and I have no marriage and no life outside of work and care obligations.
Is it ‘giving in’ to hand him over to the care system with Mum? Have we failed them...?
We are just exhausted.
Is it ‘giving in’ to hand him over to the care system with Mum? Have we failed them...?
We are just exhausted.