SnowWhite it is so true! All their worries, stress, hard work and commitment to ensuring that they had enough monies for buying their own home, providing for their families and then retirement almost feels like something completely insignificant now when purely based on their 'medical needs' or not as the case may be! If they had another disease or medical condition that is worse/different to this pure torture that is either Alzheimer's or Dementia would be supported by funding. Where is the 'fairness' in this?
Yes, there are very many of us Lizzie! My Mum was very cross at how much she had to pay out for her care because to her (and me actually) it is a massive amount of money. unlike your FIL she doesn't get "nasty" but it does upset her. When you think they paid their taxes and NI for all those years and now there's no help for them in their old age. I daren't even add up how much she's paid out in home carers (before she went into care) then her "care" home. The only crumb of comfort is that her hospital care has been free. The nursing home I have her name down for is about £800+ a week and I feel inclined not to even tell her as she will only get upset.
That generation HAD to budget their money carefully and my Mum kept a housekeeping book all her life until she was diagnosed with Alzheimer's. Every penny was accounted for as her and Dad never had any money over to save. They just kept their heads above water and no more and neither drank or smoked and the first holiday we had was when I was 16! Dad grew all our veg and fruit and Mum was a very good cook who could make a great meal from very little.
Yes, there are very many of us Lizzie! My Mum was very cross at how much she had to pay out for her care because to her (and me actually) it is a massive amount of money. unlike your FIL she doesn't get "nasty" but it does upset her. When you think they paid their taxes and NI for all those years and now there's no help for them in their old age. I daren't even add up how much she's paid out in home carers (before she went into care) then her "care" home. The only crumb of comfort is that her hospital care has been free. The nursing home I have her name down for is about £800+ a week and I feel inclined not to even tell her as she will only get upset.
That generation HAD to budget their money carefully and my Mum kept a housekeeping book all her life until she was diagnosed with Alzheimer's. Every penny was accounted for as her and Dad never had any money over to save. They just kept their heads above water and no more and neither drank or smoked and the first holiday we had was when I was 16! Dad grew all our veg and fruit and Mum was a very good cook who could make a great meal from very little.