Took my oh to day care for the first time on Wednesday. We had been there for lunch a few times to get used to the place and the manager came to the house to "assess" him. We arrived and although they didn't seem to have been told he was coming, made us welcome and took us up the lounge. Ten o'clock in morning and the huge TV was already on, tuned into The Jeremy Kyle Show!!! My oh doesn't like much TV and can't stand adverts - bad start - anyway after I had sat with him for a while he said I could go. I had seven and a half hours to myself for the first time for I can't remember how long and it was a beautiful day. However when my daughter went to collect her father she found that he had been moved from the area used for day care visitors to the more secure dementia unit and there seemed to be a lot not said. He seemed reasonably calm when they got home and he was tired so went to bed early, but then he always does. But he wasn't very settled and in fact was awake till 2 a.m. wandering round, going downstairs because of the (imaginary) people down there and leaving lights on so that people would know something was wrong. This is not typical of his night time behaviour at all and very stressful. Fortunately by morning he was calmer and more his old self but I certainly don't want to risk another day there for quite a long time and will investigate other venues. I really had hoped this home could have taken him one day a week but not to be. I had prepared him for this place, which is just two miles from where we live, as being somewhere where he would feel safe if for any reason I was unable to care for him for a short time. We are both in our seventies and mishaps can happen. The manager hasn't contacted me but I will email her just to ask, very politely, if anything unexpected had happened during the visit.