It's very true what someone said about the difference between clearing out a house when someone has died and when someone is still alive.
When Mum was still in her care home but we had sold the house she used to spend two days a week at my house (as she was so unhappy in the home). I used to give her a big box or bag of her treasures to go through and she really enjoyed that. Old photos, her handwritten cookery books from when she was 16, telegram from the queen for her diamond wedding, certificates she won at the WI for knitting and crochet, little ornaments, bits of jewellery etc.
So far she hasn't asked for anything that I got rid of because I know what's precious to her.
I will say her house was lovely and clean as she'd had a cleaner once a week for a few years who kept on top of things. Mum was also very organised so things were in order. I found it quite sad when I kept coming across little notebooks where she had written notes to herself Obviously around the time her dementia started. She wrote down every time she took paracetamol, what she wanted to tell me or her sister on the phone, what she needed to take to my house when she came for weekends and so on. It was also sad to see her beautiful handwriting deteriorating.
When Mum was still in her care home but we had sold the house she used to spend two days a week at my house (as she was so unhappy in the home). I used to give her a big box or bag of her treasures to go through and she really enjoyed that. Old photos, her handwritten cookery books from when she was 16, telegram from the queen for her diamond wedding, certificates she won at the WI for knitting and crochet, little ornaments, bits of jewellery etc.
So far she hasn't asked for anything that I got rid of because I know what's precious to her.
I will say her house was lovely and clean as she'd had a cleaner once a week for a few years who kept on top of things. Mum was also very organised so things were in order. I found it quite sad when I kept coming across little notebooks where she had written notes to herself Obviously around the time her dementia started. She wrote down every time she took paracetamol, what she wanted to tell me or her sister on the phone, what she needed to take to my house when she came for weekends and so on. It was also sad to see her beautiful handwriting deteriorating.