The police keep taking her seriously and it's finally reached crisis point. I now have a court of protection order in respect of her property and affairs so can finally freeze her account and stop all the conmen from ripping her off for 100s of pounds
Unfortunately, my aunt is the same. The family are looking to place them both in a new residential facility for dementia patients near to my home and that of my brother and one of our cousins. My aunt also has a drink problem and is terrified of the police.
My aunt sent missing from my home today and I started hunting for her, desperate that she hadn't been run over. Darkness started to fall and I was pulled over by the police for a minor traffic offence. Apparently they had been following me for some time but I had no idea that indicating to change lanes and then doing so on a roundabout was an offence so I didn't realise they were flashing their lights at me!
Becoming ever more hysterical about my aunt, I realised the lights were flashing again after around 3 miles in slow traffic so pulled over to let the car pass - which then blocked off the road with 2 police vehicles! Ordered out of my car, 3 police officers demanded I be breathalysed, despite me having had nothing whatsoever to drink. I tried to explain I was searching for someone but they weren't interested. I became hysterical as night fell and they kept me by the roadside for almost 30 ins, awaiting a useable breathalyser kit. They demanded more and more details about me and my missing person. I called a friend who advised them of the situation but still I was held. the substitute breathalyser took an age to arrive and I desperately tried to argue that I should be allowed to go and look for the missing person. they then insisted they would send squad cars!! my aunt would have run away and jumped under one of them!! desperate, I gave them my mother's name - incorrect spelling - in Lancashire. They quizzed me about her and it tried to keep the details as few as possible because of her history of calling the police all the time. finally I was breathalysed - zero - and allowed to go. I carried on driving slowly looking for my aunt and received a call within a few minutes from my brother who had found her walking on a busy A road in the dark! I headed home and called 101 within 10 mins of being released by the police to report the missing person found. I had begged and begged the police not to approach the missing lady or in any way speak to her. 3 hours later I received repeated phone calls to my mobile phone - number unknown - I left them as I was trying to find somewhere to wire money via Western union to my 18 year old son in university in America. having succeeded, I again sat down, having sorted out the homework of my 13 year old for the next day - I am a long term single parent. my house phone went - worried about both my aunt and my mother - who is always in the local pub despite never having been a drinker - I answered. it was the traffic cop, who now wants to arrest me and interview me for "wasting police time".... despite my express wishes, they instructed the local police to seek out my mother and interview her - they found her in the pub and questioned her in front of everyone - she said she had never been to where I live. I work in law and cannot believe this is happening to me - I have a young teenager at home after school for a couple of hours many early evenings and the police will just turn up and bang on the door and tell her all - I have always tried to hide my mother's dementia from her. Her aunt he knows only slightyly. I am left in the situation of revealing my aunt's details in order to avoid being prosecuted, which I cannot do, given how these officers have already behaved towards my equally ill mother, despite me begging over and over again that they do not approach her. This really is one of the last straws in this dreadful saga but I share it because the authorities are so ignorant about the devastation this disease wreaks - with the result that I will now be prosecuted for not revealing the correct details of the missing lady and my well lose my job.
Unfortunately, my aunt is the same. The family are looking to place them both in a new residential facility for dementia patients near to my home and that of my brother and one of our cousins. My aunt also has a drink problem and is terrified of the police.
My aunt sent missing from my home today and I started hunting for her, desperate that she hadn't been run over. Darkness started to fall and I was pulled over by the police for a minor traffic offence. Apparently they had been following me for some time but I had no idea that indicating to change lanes and then doing so on a roundabout was an offence so I didn't realise they were flashing their lights at me!
Becoming ever more hysterical about my aunt, I realised the lights were flashing again after around 3 miles in slow traffic so pulled over to let the car pass - which then blocked off the road with 2 police vehicles! Ordered out of my car, 3 police officers demanded I be breathalysed, despite me having had nothing whatsoever to drink. I tried to explain I was searching for someone but they weren't interested. I became hysterical as night fell and they kept me by the roadside for almost 30 ins, awaiting a useable breathalyser kit. They demanded more and more details about me and my missing person. I called a friend who advised them of the situation but still I was held. the substitute breathalyser took an age to arrive and I desperately tried to argue that I should be allowed to go and look for the missing person. they then insisted they would send squad cars!! my aunt would have run away and jumped under one of them!! desperate, I gave them my mother's name - incorrect spelling - in Lancashire. They quizzed me about her and it tried to keep the details as few as possible because of her history of calling the police all the time. finally I was breathalysed - zero - and allowed to go. I carried on driving slowly looking for my aunt and received a call within a few minutes from my brother who had found her walking on a busy A road in the dark! I headed home and called 101 within 10 mins of being released by the police to report the missing person found. I had begged and begged the police not to approach the missing lady or in any way speak to her. 3 hours later I received repeated phone calls to my mobile phone - number unknown - I left them as I was trying to find somewhere to wire money via Western union to my 18 year old son in university in America. having succeeded, I again sat down, having sorted out the homework of my 13 year old for the next day - I am a long term single parent. my house phone went - worried about both my aunt and my mother - who is always in the local pub despite never having been a drinker - I answered. it was the traffic cop, who now wants to arrest me and interview me for "wasting police time".... despite my express wishes, they instructed the local police to seek out my mother and interview her - they found her in the pub and questioned her in front of everyone - she said she had never been to where I live. I work in law and cannot believe this is happening to me - I have a young teenager at home after school for a couple of hours many early evenings and the police will just turn up and bang on the door and tell her all - I have always tried to hide my mother's dementia from her. Her aunt he knows only slightyly. I am left in the situation of revealing my aunt's details in order to avoid being prosecuted, which I cannot do, given how these officers have already behaved towards my equally ill mother, despite me begging over and over again that they do not approach her. This really is one of the last straws in this dreadful saga but I share it because the authorities are so ignorant about the devastation this disease wreaks - with the result that I will now be prosecuted for not revealing the correct details of the missing lady and my well lose my job.
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