Hi,
My MIL has now got to the stage that we cannot safely manage her at home any longer as she is very frail and has problems getting up and down the stairs, (one bathroom upstairs and refuses to use a commode).
Added to that, she wonders downstairs at night and cannot get back up again. so we have sleepless nights as we try to persuade her to go back to bed. She falls a lot and is starting to be violent and threatens to hit us and throw us down the stairs, (both my wife and I have been hit).
We had our first holiday in five years last month and she went into a nursing home for a week which was partially funded by the council (50-50). we probably chose the wrong home as we had several phone calls about her behaviour and the fact that she was being segregated from the other residents because of that behaviour. It was a bit strange as the home said that it could cater for people who have dementia and it was on the list of approved care homes.
Anyway, my question is, we are not sure about the correct approach to the council to have MIL placed in a home that would be able to give her the 24 hours care that she really needs. she doesn't have enough money to pay for the care and so it would have to be 100% funded by the council.
MIL is under the memory clinic and they seem to think that we might have to consider either putting her on quite strong drugs which greatly increase the chances of strokes or consider moving her to a home. We are seeing her doctor on Friday to see what she thinks, but I was wondering what others have done in our situation and if they have any hints or tips in how to deal with underfunded councils?
Many thanks
Graz
My MIL has now got to the stage that we cannot safely manage her at home any longer as she is very frail and has problems getting up and down the stairs, (one bathroom upstairs and refuses to use a commode).
Added to that, she wonders downstairs at night and cannot get back up again. so we have sleepless nights as we try to persuade her to go back to bed. She falls a lot and is starting to be violent and threatens to hit us and throw us down the stairs, (both my wife and I have been hit).
We had our first holiday in five years last month and she went into a nursing home for a week which was partially funded by the council (50-50). we probably chose the wrong home as we had several phone calls about her behaviour and the fact that she was being segregated from the other residents because of that behaviour. It was a bit strange as the home said that it could cater for people who have dementia and it was on the list of approved care homes.
Anyway, my question is, we are not sure about the correct approach to the council to have MIL placed in a home that would be able to give her the 24 hours care that she really needs. she doesn't have enough money to pay for the care and so it would have to be 100% funded by the council.
MIL is under the memory clinic and they seem to think that we might have to consider either putting her on quite strong drugs which greatly increase the chances of strokes or consider moving her to a home. We are seeing her doctor on Friday to see what she thinks, but I was wondering what others have done in our situation and if they have any hints or tips in how to deal with underfunded councils?
Many thanks
Graz