Hi everyone
My mum has been in an emi nursing home precisely 4 weeks today. Last Saturday a social worker visited mum to carry out a DOLS assessment. I was not notified of this prior to her visit so wasn't present when the assessment took place, but I fully see the need for a DOLS to be put in place to keep mum safe.
The assessor rang me yesterday to tell me she had carried out her assessment and to ask for my input, it all went quite smoothly until I foolishly asked her to confirm the DOLS would be put in place as mum exit seeks at times.
Mum exit seeking has become a big issue as the assessor said this indicated that mum herself would object to a DOLS. She said this may mean we have to go through the court of protection for a determination.
Surely it's very common PWD to want to "go home" to verbalise this and to try doors etc at times?
I thought the point of a DOLS was to keep a PWD safe especially when the individual lacks the capacity to make an informed and safe decision regarding their accommodation and care? If mum were allowed to leave the nursing home she would indeed try to go home. Mum's home in reality is with me. She jointly owns this house with me, but due to her aggression and wandering (she was sectioned over 6 months and currently has a one to one in the home for 16 hours a day in the home for her behaviour) I cannot have her home with me. Everyone from mum's consultant down says it wouldn't be possible. Regardless of this mum doesn't want to live with me. The home she seeks is her childhood home, a long demolished property. Following a chest infection mum isn't mobilising at the moment, but should she regain mobility she would be walking the streets trying to find her mum and dad if she were allowed the freedom.
I don't have POA as mum stubbornly refused to even discuss it. She's always been controlling and I think the idea of handing over control to anyone was an anathema to her. I know I will need to go down the deputyship route, but having to go to the court of protection to gets a DOLS in place to keep my mum safe seems bizarre to me.
So the bottom line is has anyone had a problem getting a DOLS in place because their PWD wouldn't want a DOLS?
My mum has been in an emi nursing home precisely 4 weeks today. Last Saturday a social worker visited mum to carry out a DOLS assessment. I was not notified of this prior to her visit so wasn't present when the assessment took place, but I fully see the need for a DOLS to be put in place to keep mum safe.
The assessor rang me yesterday to tell me she had carried out her assessment and to ask for my input, it all went quite smoothly until I foolishly asked her to confirm the DOLS would be put in place as mum exit seeks at times.
Mum exit seeking has become a big issue as the assessor said this indicated that mum herself would object to a DOLS. She said this may mean we have to go through the court of protection for a determination.
Surely it's very common PWD to want to "go home" to verbalise this and to try doors etc at times?
I thought the point of a DOLS was to keep a PWD safe especially when the individual lacks the capacity to make an informed and safe decision regarding their accommodation and care? If mum were allowed to leave the nursing home she would indeed try to go home. Mum's home in reality is with me. She jointly owns this house with me, but due to her aggression and wandering (she was sectioned over 6 months and currently has a one to one in the home for 16 hours a day in the home for her behaviour) I cannot have her home with me. Everyone from mum's consultant down says it wouldn't be possible. Regardless of this mum doesn't want to live with me. The home she seeks is her childhood home, a long demolished property. Following a chest infection mum isn't mobilising at the moment, but should she regain mobility she would be walking the streets trying to find her mum and dad if she were allowed the freedom.
I don't have POA as mum stubbornly refused to even discuss it. She's always been controlling and I think the idea of handing over control to anyone was an anathema to her. I know I will need to go down the deputyship route, but having to go to the court of protection to gets a DOLS in place to keep my mum safe seems bizarre to me.
So the bottom line is has anyone had a problem getting a DOLS in place because their PWD wouldn't want a DOLS?