Oops hadn't finished. Naming the door, lights etc made no difference. In the earlier part of this phase dad would go in a container ...plant pot, bin, sink, seats, fridge...yes yuk! So his brain was computing he needed to look for a container just not the right one. Then it was more corridors, wardrobe, corner of room, behind curtain etc. He was speedy and could still operate trousers well, even being taken to toilet and supervised within 10 mins he would pee again elsewhere. I felt like toilet monitor. As he declined further he would stand up, take a few paces, fiddle with his trousers and then forget why he had got up by which time he had gone in his pull ups,he was pretty much doubly incontinent by now. If we tried to move him to toilet mid stream if we caught him, he would get angry which I can understand, I wouldn't want to have to move after I had started. The staff were very good, cleaning protocol good...men more than women do it apparently, suppose easier. Dad had an enlarged protrate which can increase urination he had tablets but made no difference but may be worth a trip to GP. Tbh sorry to be pessimistic it is mortifying to see the lack of understanding for such a basic function but I thought with dad it was just the path taking towards incontinence for some, relatives in the home of those who didn't inappropriately pee never understood why dad couldn't stop and I wished with all my heart for dad and everyone else that he had moved into full incontinence quickly, the in between stage is horrible...however it was two years. I and the NH staff didn't have any answers especially with a determined dad.