I have come to this forum as I have hit a brick wall.
My Stepdad is now in the advanced stages of dementia but still active in the sense he is fidgety, anxious, moves around a lot. My poor mum is 65years old and only getting 1-2 hours sleep a night as he will not settle in bed. I have videos to share to show this.
He is beyond res bite and care homes as we have been to numerous now in Manchester, and all we get told is, we do not have the staff to care for his needs and we are sent packing. Our social worker is not very proactive nor compassionate to my mothers desperate cries for help.
If I am not careful, I will lose both of them to soon -all because people will not help me!!
I spent 3 hours driving round calling in and out of care homes to see if they would take my step dad and it was no, no, no.
As a daughter, I work full time yet I spend most of my day calling people, chatting on forums, speaking to doctors to try and get them help. Its frustrating that all I get told is "Google help, call care homes, see what your doctors says". How about: "Im so sorry your mother and step dad are suffering, here is a list of places in Manchester that will accept advanced dementia patients"
He needs full time residency not only for his health but also my mothers. She has him by her side 24/7, dressing him, washing him, taking him to the toilet. Its not on, she needs help.
He even had a seizure and had to be resuscitated on the bedroom floor a few days ago, yet after checks at the hospital -he was sent home!!!!
Why are people not helping us -surely there are people in our positions.
Ive already been given links to websites, helplines and I've googled care homes in Manchester. I need face to face or over the phone advice. Please I am desperate if anyone can help??
My Stepdad is now in the advanced stages of dementia but still active in the sense he is fidgety, anxious, moves around a lot. My poor mum is 65years old and only getting 1-2 hours sleep a night as he will not settle in bed. I have videos to share to show this.
He is beyond res bite and care homes as we have been to numerous now in Manchester, and all we get told is, we do not have the staff to care for his needs and we are sent packing. Our social worker is not very proactive nor compassionate to my mothers desperate cries for help.
If I am not careful, I will lose both of them to soon -all because people will not help me!!
I spent 3 hours driving round calling in and out of care homes to see if they would take my step dad and it was no, no, no.
As a daughter, I work full time yet I spend most of my day calling people, chatting on forums, speaking to doctors to try and get them help. Its frustrating that all I get told is "Google help, call care homes, see what your doctors says". How about: "Im so sorry your mother and step dad are suffering, here is a list of places in Manchester that will accept advanced dementia patients"
He needs full time residency not only for his health but also my mothers. She has him by her side 24/7, dressing him, washing him, taking him to the toilet. Its not on, she needs help.
He even had a seizure and had to be resuscitated on the bedroom floor a few days ago, yet after checks at the hospital -he was sent home!!!!
Why are people not helping us -surely there are people in our positions.
Ive already been given links to websites, helplines and I've googled care homes in Manchester. I need face to face or over the phone advice. Please I am desperate if anyone can help??