Any thoughts on this?
I arrived quite late in the day to see my mum today, about 5.50pm. Supper is usually served around 5.30pm and my mum's is served in her room. I was checking her nutrition sheet to see if she had already had her supper when the nurse in charge, B, popped her head around the door. " I thought you might be wondering if your mum had been fed and I wanted to tell you that everything is a bit late-running today".
I'm not very keen on B, but recently she has seemed more proactive and responsive to my concerns. I wasn't particularly vexed about the lack of supper for my mum because she had eaten well at breakfast and lunch and she seemed quite bright. She did say she was hungry, so I fed her a little chocolate to stave off the pangs.
After a further ten minutes elapsed and no food appeared I went downstairs to the kitchen to see what was happening and to collect my mum's belated supper, if possible. The tray had not been prepared but at my appearance dishes were assembled and drink poured for her. I took the trayload back upstairs and started feeding my mum.
After five minutes B appeared and asked who had brought the tray up. I said I had fetched it myself. I was not too worried about the lateness, as I said. B sped off and ten minutes later, she reappeared with FOUR carers in tow. She marched them all into my mum's room and said to me " There they are. Four of them! Any of them could have come and fed your mum" Then turning to the carers she said " What have you got to say to Deborah and to me?"
They looked a bit sheepish but the first one into the room, M, was angry with me. " We were doing all the other rooms, Deborah, and the trolleys. We have other duties as well"
I was a bit flabbergasted. I think B had expected me to round on them and tick them all off but today I was feeling reasonably benign and understanding. I had to calm M down and assure her that I knew she would have come around eventually.
One of the carers, N, said sorry to me and thanked B for letting them all know that my mum hadn't been fed. " No, no", B replied to her. " You should say sorry to me too!" I think I let B down by not backing her up on this but my mum had stopped eating in astonishment and I just wanted them all to buzz off and get on with their duties. I looked at them and said ' It's not a problem, don't worry' but afterwards I thought, 'Oh heck, no one will bother to feed her tomorrow evening on the strength of my feebleness tonight...'
What was all that about?
I arrived quite late in the day to see my mum today, about 5.50pm. Supper is usually served around 5.30pm and my mum's is served in her room. I was checking her nutrition sheet to see if she had already had her supper when the nurse in charge, B, popped her head around the door. " I thought you might be wondering if your mum had been fed and I wanted to tell you that everything is a bit late-running today".
I'm not very keen on B, but recently she has seemed more proactive and responsive to my concerns. I wasn't particularly vexed about the lack of supper for my mum because she had eaten well at breakfast and lunch and she seemed quite bright. She did say she was hungry, so I fed her a little chocolate to stave off the pangs.
After a further ten minutes elapsed and no food appeared I went downstairs to the kitchen to see what was happening and to collect my mum's belated supper, if possible. The tray had not been prepared but at my appearance dishes were assembled and drink poured for her. I took the trayload back upstairs and started feeding my mum.
After five minutes B appeared and asked who had brought the tray up. I said I had fetched it myself. I was not too worried about the lateness, as I said. B sped off and ten minutes later, she reappeared with FOUR carers in tow. She marched them all into my mum's room and said to me " There they are. Four of them! Any of them could have come and fed your mum" Then turning to the carers she said " What have you got to say to Deborah and to me?"
They looked a bit sheepish but the first one into the room, M, was angry with me. " We were doing all the other rooms, Deborah, and the trolleys. We have other duties as well"
I was a bit flabbergasted. I think B had expected me to round on them and tick them all off but today I was feeling reasonably benign and understanding. I had to calm M down and assure her that I knew she would have come around eventually.
One of the carers, N, said sorry to me and thanked B for letting them all know that my mum hadn't been fed. " No, no", B replied to her. " You should say sorry to me too!" I think I let B down by not backing her up on this but my mum had stopped eating in astonishment and I just wanted them all to buzz off and get on with their duties. I looked at them and said ' It's not a problem, don't worry' but afterwards I thought, 'Oh heck, no one will bother to feed her tomorrow evening on the strength of my feebleness tonight...'
What was all that about?