grief days

[Soobee]

Every few months I get what I call a grief day - though it can last longer.

A time where the loss is much more sharp than usual, where I feel that pain of bereavement deep inside, and it feels in some way heavy. I don't know what causes them or where they come from but they are thankfully quite rare.

I really, really miss my parents today. I have been dreaming about them which means I should go and see their woodland site soon as the dreams don't usually stop until I do.

I'm not posting for sympathy, I am posting because I reckon a lot of you will understand what I mean.

 

[nellbelles]

I know exactly what you mean, they creep up on you unawares, I hope the woodland visit settles your thoughts.

 

[2jays]

If I was as eloquent as you, I could have been writing your post

Squishy hug xxxx

 

[Saffie]

You can prepare yourself for the big anniversaries but it's the grief that hits you from nowhere which is the hardest to bear. Sending hugs. xxx

 

[Bunpoots]

I too understand what you mean. I'll suddenly be reminded of my mum or my aunt and it hits quite hard even after 7 and 5 years.

 

[LadyA]

And sometimes it the silliest things that can trigger it. Was passing through the freezer section of Tesco the other day, and a guy was stock-taking, counting all the boxes of different types of ice cream. And that set me off! Because I used to buy several litre sized tubs of Cherry ice cream every week for William. But I don't like ice cream, so since he went to the nursing home, I haven't bought any.
Funny, the things you miss.

 

[Izzy]

I recognise that grief.

 

[jan.s]

I can totally understand those feelings. X

 

[Loopiloo]

Soobee I also recognise the grief days. Yes a lot of us will understand. Mine tend to last a few days and are doing so this week. Then it passes.

Different from the sudden, unexpected grief that catches you out unexpectedly and you find yourself in tears or sobbing.

A colleague and friend of Henry's of many years died last week, the funeral is on Monday, and that set off a train of thoughts, memories, sadness. In past years we celebrated a number of New Years with them and another couple. Now only one of the three men left.

Henry feels very near....

I hope you manage to visit your parents woodland site soon. I still have spells of deeply missing my Mum and Dad.

Loo xx

 

[Grannie G]

You can prepare yourself for the big anniversaries but it's the grief that hits you from nowhere which is the hardest to bear.

I agree Saffie. The worst thing anyone can do is pat themselves on the back thinking they are doing well.

 

[reddollyfood]

Oh I know those times so well. My darling old boy left me almost 8 months ago and I can be fine for days with just my memories but then out of the blue it will hit me like a sudden rain storm and I am overwhelmed! You're not alone. Sending you big hugs! X

 

[MollyD]

Yes, me too. Frequently in the most unedifying of places, like Dealz, looking at some buy one get one free something or other. It used to be when I saw fudge or iced fairy cakes for dad, now it's just 'zillions' of items. They're all somehow imbued with the memory of mum. I know this will become less frequent in time, less intense at any rate.

Walking around, I so often wonder how many are going about their business, like I am, with a lump in their throats or sharp ache in their hearts. More than I can count, I imagine.

Blessed to have TP to voice it. X