This will sound so silly to some of you but for me its a big very real problem. I can not deal deal with strangers and have not been able to do so for years. Now mum has dementia I have had to deal with doctors, nurses for mums bloods, other hospital appointments, well being clinic, sorting out a carer to shower mum and even the carers that pick mum up and brings mum home from day center, today memory clinic phoned to say they will be here next week, and after the phone call i just burst into tears and had some sort of panic attack, just cant stop crying and feels such a fool as all i have done is given myself a headache. How on earth do you all cope?
Sue, you are doing so much to help your mum. And it has really pushed you to beyond what you thought were your limits. So, I have to say, that it looks like you have been doing an amazing job. Now, you need some help for yourself, in order that you can go on helping your mum. Don't shortchange yourself on this. Because you have already achieved so much on your own.
You said "I cannot deal with strangers and have not been able to do so for years." And yet, you
have dealt with strangers, for your mum's sake. Over and over again. You've already done the hardest part, facing the thing you cannot do and doing it anyway. With that kind of courage and determination, there will be no stopping you! So, you've had a melt down, and cried your eyes out. Good. You'll feel all the better for it, I'm sure.
Now, get on to the doctor, and do some shouting, about how much you
need help with this, in order that you can continue caring for your mum.